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Ever tried back door sex....

I have only been married for a short time. This is my first post on the nest. I have been thinking have you ever had anal sex, or would you ever. I mean this is something that me and my husband were discussing and I just dont think it is for me. It just seems like it would hurt! What are your thoughts?

Re: Ever tried back door sex....

  • I've heard it hurts. I already went through that vaginallly, not interested in doing it again.
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  • Thats what I am thinking. I mean. I was a virgin when i got married and there is no way i would want to go through that pain again.
  • Some one posted the same question a week or so ago. Here is the thread. Hope this helps.

    http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/29699236.aspx

     

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  • we are actually starting to do this but we are going slow
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  • Never tried...And will not try in the future.
  • someone posted on here to start slow and use toys first....

    thats where we stopped lol i am uncomfortable with going all the way because i think it will hurt too, we've almost gone all the way, it didnt hurt but it is uncomfortable but he REALLY enjoys it. however, the smaller toys are actually really enjoyable for me too. a lot of girls, like myself, that cannot O from vaginal...can O from this.....

    dont turn your mind off from it completely....compromise.  

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  • Can someone explain to me what this great wave of sodomy is all about,..other than a fad caused by the porn industry running out of new sensations?

     

    I'm a man and not especially romantic (or so i've been reminded!) but this seems to me to be completely against any tender emotional or intimate intercourse between partners.   Sometimes sex does need to be vigorous and very physical but it is revolting to me to think of penetrating a womans bottom!

  • It hurts, lots of lube and go very slowly, it does nothing for me, but i have a girlfriend that can orgasm thru it
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  • imagemparker514:
    Thats what I am thinking. I mean. I was a virgin when i got married and there is no way i would want to go through that pain again.
    So if it hurt the first time you had sex.  What are you going to do if you have a baby? 
  • Its like everything else in a relationship, its about compromises.  If you or DH want to try it why not?  Gives you guy something else to try together and work through, and who knows you might actually enjoy it.  Wine+lube I highly recommend before trying though. 
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  • imagemparker514:
    Thats what I am thinking. I mean. I was a virgin when i got married and there is no way i would want to go through that pain again.
    image Blackwidow13:
    So if it hurt the first time you had sex.  What are you going to do if you have a baby? 
     
     
    It doesnt hurt now and I plan on having children.
     
    Why must people be so rude?
  • Well sober, FI would never say that he wants it.  However, one night after a night at the bar, we had drunken sex, and that was the end of it for me.  It hurts (which of course vaginal sex does too).  Still, I told him no more, and he said ok then.  Actual the memory for him wasn't near as clear as it was for me.
  • imageoldbugle:

    Can someone explain to me what this great wave of sodomy is all about,..other than a fad caused by the porn industry running out of new sensations?

     

    I'm a man and not especially romantic (or so i've been reminded!) but this seems to me to be completely against any tender emotional or intimate intercourse between partners.   Sometimes sex does need to be vigorous and very physical but it is revolting to me to think of penetrating a womans bottom!

     

    I agree, when did society become so interested in sodomy?

    And its revolting to me to think of someone doing it as well.

  • imagemparker514:
    imagemparker514:
    Thats what I am thinking. I mean. I was a virgin when i got married and there is no way i would want to go through that pain again.
    image Blackwidow13:
    So if it hurt the first time you had sex.  What are you going to do if you have a baby? 
     
     
    It doesnt hurt now and I plan on having children.
     
    Why must people be so rude?

     

    You kinda have to expect rude on some of these boards.  Don't take it personally.  Just brush it off and take what is helpful to you, leave the rest.

  • To those who think anal sex is a new fad. It's been around as long as humans. It didn't take long for ancient people to figure out that anal sex  doesn't cause yet another baby to raise and feed.

        Still a popular birth control method in the 3rd and developing world. Among strict Catholics too who won't use birth control and don't want a pregnancy.

      It only "popular" or openly discussed now due to more liberated and casual conversations plus the easy access to rude movies.

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