August 2006 Weddings
To
explore decision-making in the typical American home, a Pew Research
Center survey asked men and women living in couples which one generally
makes the decisions in four familiar areas of domestic life. Who
decides what you do together on the weekend? Who manages the household
finances? Who makes the decisions on big purchases for the home? And
who most often decides what to watch on television?
The survey finds that in 43% of all couples it?s the woman who makes
decisions in more areas than the man. By contrast, men make more of the
decisions in only about a quarter (26%) of all couples. And about
three-in-ten couples (31%) split decision-making responsibilities
equally.
On a different topic related to gender and power, the survey asked
whether people are more comfortable dealing with a man or with a woman
in a variety of positions of authority ? doctor, banker, lawyer, police
officer, airline pilot, school teacher and surgeon.
Public attitudes are mixed. Among respondents who have a preference,
men are favored in some roles (airline pilot, surgeon, police officer,
lawyer); women in others (elementary school teacher, banker); and the
public is evenly divided about whether its family doctor should be a
man or a woman. Notably, however, for all seven of these positions, a
sizable share of the public says it has no gender preference ? ranging
from the 33% who say this about teachers to the 54% who say it about
surgeons.
Taken together, these results complement earlier findings from a
wide-ranging Pew survey that explored public attitudes toward men and
women as political leaders1, and examined the roles that a candidate's gender and parenthood status play in voters' decisions2continued....
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NER: who's the boss in your relationship?
interesting study by pew. on a whole, it makes me say, well, duh. of course we're in charge. which, frankly, can be damn annoying, imo.
full story here: http://pewsocialtrends.org/pubs/717/gender-power
you can take the quiz here: http://pewsocialtrends.org/couplesquiz/
Women Call the Shots at Home; Public Mixed on Gender Roles in Jobs
Gender and Power
by Rich Morin and D?Vera Cohn, Pew Research Center
September 25, 2008
To
explore decision-making in the typical American home, a Pew Research
Center survey asked men and women living in couples which one generally
makes the decisions in four familiar areas of domestic life. Who
decides what you do together on the weekend? Who manages the household
finances? Who makes the decisions on big purchases for the home? And
who most often decides what to watch on television?
The survey finds that in 43% of all couples it?s the woman who makes
decisions in more areas than the man. By contrast, men make more of the
decisions in only about a quarter (26%) of all couples. And about
three-in-ten couples (31%) split decision-making responsibilities
equally.
On a different topic related to gender and power, the survey asked
whether people are more comfortable dealing with a man or with a woman
in a variety of positions of authority ? doctor, banker, lawyer, police
officer, airline pilot, school teacher and surgeon.
Public attitudes are mixed. Among respondents who have a preference,
men are favored in some roles (airline pilot, surgeon, police officer,
lawyer); women in others (elementary school teacher, banker); and the
public is evenly divided about whether its family doctor should be a
man or a woman. Notably, however, for all seven of these positions, a
sizable share of the public says it has no gender preference ? ranging
from the 33% who say this about teachers to the 54% who say it about
surgeons.
Taken together, these results complement earlier findings from a
wide-ranging Pew survey that explored public attitudes toward men and
women as political leaders1, and examined the roles that a candidate's gender and parenthood status play in voters' decisions2continued....
Re: NER: who's the boss in your relationship?
Who decides what you do together on the weekend? Who manages the household finances? Who makes the decisions on big purchases for the home? And who most often decides what to watch on television?
Interesting. I'm the "social director" of our family - I make plans for us, and then tell mr. gtown what they are. But we're equally involved in household finances and TV watching. It helps that we have Tivo.
It's a constant battle with us and goes back-and-forth. We're both really independent, and I think H was set in his ways before we met. So we struggle for power. Especially considering that I'm more organized and like to plan ahead, and H is more go with the flow. So he resented my taking charge, but if I didn't he would wait until the last minute and then be like "wahhh, we don't have plans". Recently we've figured it out and things are better, but for awhile it was really annoying.
Oh wow, that is so us. Neither H nor I are terribly together people, which is good I guess because we both don't care about certain things. But I'm more together than he is, so whenever it would fall on me to finally take care of something I'd get pissed then do it, and then he'd get pissed that I didn't involve him or whatever.
It's definitely an issue that we've gotten better about over time. When we first moved in together, it really really sucked for awhile!
girl, i feel you. but brookles, we've been living together for 4 years!!!! sigh, we're screwed.
seriously, i think this battle has reared its ugly head since we bought our house last month. there's a dizzying new set of responsibilities and neither one of is exactly jumping to be in charge... altho, i take that back. after much manuevering, we've dedicated tomorrow as "house organization extravaganza day" and H is totally about it. so maybe there IS hope for us...lol.
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Ha. See, baby steps, gypsy!
We do things together, but he has no head for bills or dates, so I manage our finances and calendar. I tell him how much money to give me after each paycheck (we don't have it automatically set up because our boss pays us on random days). He doesn't remember dates or plans, so I do all of that out of necessity. He says, "I want to go to the mall (or whatever) this weekend." I say, "Great, whatever you like. Just remember, my nephew's birthday party is Saturday, so we need to plan accordingly."
Otherwise, we pretty much are fine. Being a married adult has been interesting, because we're both right brained procrastinators. Thankfully, we seem to have each learned different ways to be mature.