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really bad timing
I'm feeling really stressed - We found out on Friday that DH's company is being acquired/merging, we didn't know until today what that meant for him. He is still employed with the current company until the acquisition, but has to submit his resume for consideration with the new company. Also - his boss offered to send his resume to other colleagues/companies. Supposedly, we will be covered for health insurance until April (end of april???)- which will hopefully be good for the birth coverage, but after that point, I don't know. I'm a freelancer, so my benefits have usually been through DH as they are better than what we could get through Freelancer's Union. So he is basically without a job after this acquisition occurs, and we don't know when that will be, unless he is hired by the new company or finds a job through boss's contacts.
It really makes me worried and sick to my stomach. I'm getting so close to delivering this baby - it's really crucial that DH has a job and good benefits for us, I have a completely unpaid maternity leave and we have some savings, but most was to be back-up for maternity leave stuff.
On top of all this, my dad has been in the hospital since last Thursday (he has a heart problem and had some kind of seizure/reaction to something on Wednesday night). He was feeling better over the weekend and today the dr's (and my mom) convinced him to have surgery for a defibrillator. I'm really really happy that at least his situation is getting better, but this has been a rough week.
Not knowing what is going to happen with DH and his job in the future is really scary - if anyone has any leads for Systems Admin / NetworkAdmin / IT positions, I'd really appreciate it. Fingers crossed that things work out somehow. thanks for 'listening'.
Re: really bad timing
Liza, I am incredibly sorry to hear all of this, but things will definitely work themselves out, even at the bleakest time. While DH's job may be in limbo, are unemployment benefits available to him that he can readily apply for if the new company doesn't keep him on in the worst case scenario? In the meantime, you could definitely look into applying for medicaid, especially being pregnant so you and baby can be covered. I think COBRA, from what I hear being so expensive would be the last resort, and your chances are more promising and beneficial with medicaid. As taxpapers, we've paid into these services each paycheck, and that's exactly what they should be for, when working people need a lift.
I'm praying your dad remains well, and that you're able to relax and think positive thoughts for you and baby.
I will definitely keep an ear out in my company for any IT openings within my publishing company where I work.
Please keep us updated as I'm sending you tons of Nestie hugs and positive vibes your way for you and baby!
all that stress about DH's job/insurance + pregnancy hormones = ugh!
i'm so sorry that you have to go through all this! i'll have DH keep an ear out for IT positions (he's a former IT guy who now works in data). i'd never recommend my company to someone i didn't like and i certainly wouldn't recommend for a nestie's DH.
*hugs* to you!
ooh Liza, I'm so sorry about what you're going through! I totally understand. My husband is an electrician with the union and they've been having massive lay off's lately and DH is definitely not safe from being laid off. It's very scary to think about. Try to be positive and just think that their are resources out there to help you in the worst case scenario. Like the pp's said, there are insurances through the state that you can apply for in a time of need and if need be, food stamps and other sources of income in the interim of your DH finding another job. But, he should definitely get the ball rolling now. I work at a local hospital and we have a pretty big IT department. I doubt your husband will want to travel to SI, but every hospital has an IT dept. and maybe your husband can start applying to them. Most hospitals accept applications and resume's right through their websites now. It doesn't hurt to try. I hope everything works out for you and your hubby.
Also, I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. I hope he starts getting better each day. My dad too deals with minor heart issues, but I'm always worried about him. Your dad is in my thoughts and prayers.
Oh no! This really sucks but I agree with pp's that he needs to start looking stat, and in the meantime start researching options for medical care etc. I have a feeling, that things will work out. I really don't want you to be stressed. And I am sorry.
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Oh Liza, i'm so sorry!!
Check out nyu.edu for some job listings. Every once in a while they post some gems for IT jobs.
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So it looks like he'll be employed until the end of March-ish (right around my due date - haha!) and he will be getting a severance package and health care coverage (not sure if that will continue after the merger or for maybe 30 days after?). He's finding out more info today.
Last night he polished up his resume and already applied to a couple jobs last night. He is fortunately well networked so he has reached out to his friends and colleagues about other job openings. His current boss is also helping by giving him names of a couple high-end recruiters and sending his resume to other associates/colleagues that he knows. DH said last night he felt that his boss would be able to help him find a job as he's a really well-connected person. Whether that actually happens, we'll see. The other option is actually being hired by the new company that is acquiring his current employer - he is submitting his resume today, so we'll see.
I'll definitely check into a lot of your suggestions with nyc companies. And we'll have to see with the health insurance coverage - I could always have us go back on the freelancers union insurance, it's just better to do that after the baby is born, because of the homebirth coverage, etc.