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I'm not a very nice person....(long)
at least I don't feel like it at the moment. I'm dreading spending the weekend w/ BIL and his bratty little girl.
We're going to the coast this weekend to do some clamming and we're having a bunch of people go with us and we're staying at a cabin who belongs to a friend of my family's. Don't get me wrong I love BIL like my own brother and I love his daughter, but they both drive.me.nuts! The little girl is, if I can be totally honest, is a B****. Now I don't like calling a 4 year old that, but it's 100% true. She's an only child of divorced parents that lives at her grandparent's house and spends 3 days a week being watched by her great grandmothers. Needless to say that there's not a whole lot of discipline going on. My MIL tries, but she is a grandma and more tries to reason with her instead of actually disciplining (which shouldn't be her job in the first place). Her dad (BIL) ignores her bad behavior until he's so mad that he freaks and screams at her. It's just not much fun. I don't let her get away with the crap she tries to pull so I usually end up making her cry b/c she doesn't get her way. It's exhausting to be around them.
Complaint #2: BIL and his gf (who is also going and who I like in general) are smokers. I'm sorry if anyone here is a smoker, but I honestly can't stand most smokers. It just irritates the eff out of me. What makes me the angriest is that they think it's perfectly okay to just drop their butts on the ground and leave them there. I can't put into words how much that pisses me off. It's littering and it's disgusting. I know that this weekend they're going to go smoke on the deck and leave their butts everywhere and I'm going to end up cleaning them up when we leave b/c I don't want the owners of the house to show up and have a bunch of cigarette butts everywhere. FWIW I'm going to try and put a coffee can out there, but most of the time they throw them on the ground even if there's one available. BIL is completely disrespectful of other people's property and that ticks me off too. He's going to come in the house w/ his clothes smelling like cigarettes and plop down on the furniture. These people are being nice enough to let us use their cabin for pretty much nothing and I don't want to abuse that.
Okay....I feel better having got that out. Thanks so much for giving me a place to vent this out.
Re: I'm not a very nice person....(long)
Lets see... you hold your tongue when it comes to how other people raise their kid... you clean up after them... you find a cabin for them to use... you don't explode at them when they litter other peoples property... that makes you a nice person.
I hope you have fin this weekend, despite the BIL issues.
Also - I don't think there's anything wrong with telling BIL and his GF to pick up their butts and/or make sure they get in the ashtray. That's common courtesy, and if they can't manage it themselves then they need someone to remind them.
Ditto, ditto,ditto.
{Blog: Adventures of AlaskanAlison}
THIS!!!! You are great, and I hope they don't make you too crazy this weekend! Enjoy yourself as much as you can and remember - it's just for the weekend. You rock sister! HUGS!