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if you use condoms....

I am currently on BCP and it is really affecting my sex drive, to say the least. I don't want these hormones in my body anymore. My husband has NEVER used a condom because when we met I was already on the pill. We won't be able to afford a baby for probably another year and a half, so its important that we find some other method of BC. My insurance doesn't cover any sort of BC so I really don't have a choice besides taking the pill or condoms. So it seems either I lose or he loses....it sucks.

So if you use condoms--what kind do you use? My husband wants one that feels closest to not using a condom at all. He says that condoms take away the feeling for him. I read reviews on the Kimono, Crown, and Pleasure Plus condoms and they all had great reviews. Does anyone use those? Also, is there any website that will let you order just a sample? 

Thanks for the help! 

Re: if you use condoms....

  • Okay, I know this isn't what you asked for, because we don't use condoms. But it's just a thought - feel free to take it or leave it. I recently read the book 'Taking Charge of Your Fertiity' and it talks about the Fertility Awareness Method, which is basically just charting your most fertile times (much easier than it sounds) and avoiding sex during those times. It's only a couple/few days a month, it much cheaper than condoms, and no discomfort. Or you could just keep condoms around if you can't resist each other during those times. Just a thought. Most libraries have the book, you can check it out if you want. Just a thought!
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  • I recommend hitting up a Lover's or some other sex shop, getting a bunch of different kinds of condoms and trying them out til you find a few you like.

    and yes, if you'd like to have less condom sex over the course of the month, you could consider charting. check out the nest's Getting Pregnant board for more advice after visiting: www.takingchargeofyourfertility.com

    GL!

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    As long as your partner is not bigger than average, these are awesome!

  • And if he is bigger than average, Trojan makes Magnum Ecstasy as well, which I highly recommend.
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    These are my husbands favorite!

    I was in the same spot you were, always on BC and couldn?t take the low sex drive any longer so I went off them. I went to condomdepot.com, they have variety packs that are too expensive. We liked how it gave you a few of each brand to test

     

  • Ok, I do not know what state you live in but most states have some form of Medicaid/Family Planning program...In Louisiana we have the Take Charge Card and it covers all family planning services even if you have insurance.  I work at a hospital and have their insurance which doesnt cover BC of any kind so I got proof of that and I was issued the card which is how I got the Implanon Implant in my arm which is Progesterone only..but you could also try an IUD with or without hormones..these are all longer term (1+ years) options.
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    And if he is bigger than average, Trojan makes Magnum Ecstasy as well, which I highly recommend.

    Good to know Wink

  • We use Lifestyle Skyn.  We tried many different types also and these work the best for us.

    My insurance doesn't cover BC either but some pharmacies (ie. CVS and Walgreens), have their own in-store plans that will give you a discount.

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  • Thank you all SO much! We'll just have to try a few different ones until we find one that is great.  I also like condomdepot.com and also ripnroll.com for good prices. 

    Thanks again!! 

  • a little off topic but...i started bcp when me and my dh started getting serious in the beginning and never used condoms.  recently i went off the pills to get my body back to normal and maybe try to conceive later in the yr.  so right now while my body is still trying to get back to normal, me and dh decided to try to use condoms.  and there is such a big difference.  i hate the feeling of it.  but mostly, i think its a mental thing.  i hate knowing there is this foreign thing in me.  so now we're sort of doing what the pp said.. just charting.  i know its not fool proof but if i was meant to have a baby now..so be it!

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  • My H and I really like One condom brand. Really thin and no latex smell.
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    As long as your partner is not bigger than average, these are awesome!

    I second this one, and Magnum makes one also if he is on the "bigger' side

  • Trojan Ultrathins. Anything else feels too thick to me, let alone DH. We still use condoms even though we practice FAM, we have no reseaon to abstain while I'm fertile, except of course to not get preggo, so condoms to the rescue until I O.
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  • I've never used BC. So when when we were engaged it was "operation don't get knocked up." We used Trojans for that year. It was the best sex ever, he says so too. It made us feel like we were in high school using condoms and it was the first time he could come inside me.

    Here in arkansas there is free BC through Dept of Human Services. I think just about anyone qualifies. Something to check into.

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  • i have used a spermicide before, no condom, just 15 min to 3 hours before sex, insert one into your vagina, it dissolves and youre good to go. when i used this with one bf, he would still pull out to ***, but he wouldnt have to.

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    i prefer the encare, its easier to insert.

    these definitly add to your wetness, and doesnt taste good so i would never go down on him when we used it. (but i also really disliked the latex taste too)

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  • Trojan Ultra Thin, or any ultra thin condoms are the closest I've gotten to feeling like there is no condom.

     

    Hope this helps!

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  • I also just came off the BCP because I don't want the hormones in my body either anymore. I'm using condoms because I cannot afford a baby yet either.

    My periods are really unpredictable so I have not starting using ovulation tracking for my BC method yet, but I have heard of the book mentioned above and I borrowed it from a friend. It's a smart method if you can be strict with temping and tracking.
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  • I was temporarily taken off my insurance and didnt go get birth control so for the first time my finace and I had to give in to condoms, the alternative just wasnt worth it for us so weve tried a couple different kinds and if youre looking for a skin like feeling Trojan Ultrathin comes the closest to that, but caution...we cant use those any more because weve had so many rip during intercourse and we ended up having to go pay $50 for Plan B a couple times. Currently were using Trojan Ultra Pleasure with spermicidal lubricant and were happy with those for right now :) Good Luck!

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