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Lucy Elizabeth 10.27.12
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Would you be pissed?
BFF finds out Saturday she's pregnant.(they were trying). Apparently she tells her sister tonight. Sister's FB status:
Very excited that ill be an aunt hehe awesome congrads sis
So I called BFF and said, "uhh, your sister just blew up your spot on FB." She said "oh... yeah, I thought that could happen." I said "I don't know how you feel about it, but I wanted to warn you about it because I know most women like to wait until after 1st tri to announce it." She told me she wasn't going to go public right away but when you tell enough people, it spreads and gets out of control anyway.
But dude.... I'd be JACKED if someone else announced MY pregnancy not even a week after testing positive. SERIOUSLY.
Very excited that ill be an aunt hehe awesome congrads sis
So I called BFF and said, "uhh, your sister just blew up your spot on FB." She said "oh... yeah, I thought that could happen." I said "I don't know how you feel about it, but I wanted to warn you about it because I know most women like to wait until after 1st tri to announce it." She told me she wasn't going to go public right away but when you tell enough people, it spreads and gets out of control anyway.
But dude.... I'd be JACKED if someone else announced MY pregnancy not even a week after testing positive. SERIOUSLY.
Lucy Elizabeth 10.27.12
Re: Would you be pissed?
This is exactly why I have no intention of telling my family that early on. Don't know if I could make it to the second tri w/o telling, but I'd want sometime with just DH and I knowing.
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I guess it would depend...
I would be all sorts of livid if we had mutual friends (including family) who I hadn't had an opportunity to tell.
But, if it was someone like my younger brother (who I have all of 6 friends in common with, and who are all people I would announce it to simeltaneously), I guess it wouldn't matter so much because I know most of his friends wouldn't know me/care.
Then again, I wouldn't tell anyone aside from my mom for the first six weeks or so. At about 8-10 weeks, I might tell the rest of the family. At 12 weeks (or when the doctor made the "everything looks good" call), I'd announce it myself via Facebook.
This is why I have no interest in trying to get pregnant. It's stressing me out just imagining what I might do if/when we do decide to start having kids.
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Lucy Elizabeth 10.27.12
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We specifically told siblings not to post it on fb until they see it on our wall.
And my family was some of the last people to know. I knew I would be mad if they shared my news so I waited until we had a chance to tell everyone else we wanted to tell ourselves and then my family.
That definitely isn't her sisters news to share. DH's sister1 did that to their sister2 earlier this year. She told us sister2's announcement. If it were me, I would be a little peeved.
I was pissed when my sister announced our house purchase on facebook 2 weeks ago before I got to. I'd be livid about a pregnancy announcement.
My other sister did something similar with our cousin's engagement. Cousin announced it on facebook before telling family. I told sister who then called grandmother to find out if it was true. Grandmother didn't even know about it, and cousin's family was sad they weren't the ones to tell the family. Smooth move sister. (Although, in truth, don't post it on facebook if your family doesn't know yet).
Yes, I would be pissed.
That being said, I have absolutely no intention of waiting until 2nd trimester to tell people. I am going to tell my DH, parents, and close friends as soon as I know because I want them to support me if something goes wrong.
I would try to hold off on announcing on FB though, so of course, I will tell my DH, parents, and close friends not to say anything on facebook. Doesn't sound like your BFF made this distinction. Either way, I absolutely would want to be the one to "break" the news on FB.
You're right, sarajoy, I'm sure bff didn't issue a disclaimer on the news. And I agree - I'm sure I'll tell a good amount of people close to me when the stick turns blue (or whatever they do these days).
And maybe I'm a big AW, but I really want the chance to announce huge news on my terms. I'll be the annoying person who does cutesy ways of announcing it too. haha.
Lucy Elizabeth 10.27.12
First of all, congrats to your BFF! You're going to be an aunt too, yay
I can't stand when people do this, it's so immature IMO. But if your BFF was really all that worried about the news getting out there, she probably wouldn't have told her in the first place. She's probably just super excited to be an aunt--I try to give her the benefit of the doubt. But yes, I have become an excellent secret keeper as I've gotten older, I think it's a good quality
I may be the only one, but I think it's cute that her sis was so excited for her. And it's been said, but it doesn't sound like you're bff was surprised, so if she didn't want people to know she probably wouldn't have told her.
I definitely told some key people about the engagement just so I wouldn't have to call people. People found out really quickly, and I avoided "why didn't you tell meeeee?" conversations. "Oh, I only told so-and-so... I was going to call you, but I guess you already know..."
I would probably hold off telling anyone about a pregnancy (including my mom) for a but longer. I agree with pp who said once you tell someone, you've told everyone.
I find it far from cute -- simply because I know how the sister is -- very not bright and having her own fertility problems. Combine the two and I see how it happened. But c'mon, it's common sense that you don't announce someone else's MILESTONE news.
When I got engaged and told people via phone, I didn't offer any "but don't tell anyone else!" I wouldn't care if they verbally told someone. But had they publicly announce it before I could? Unexcuseable and inappropriate. And I equate baby announcements a lot higher than on the big news scale.
I suppose it's a good thing my bff is NOT me and she's not that upset.
Lucy Elizabeth 10.27.12