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What factors are/did you consider when deciding when to TTC?
Just curious - having the moral debate as to whether I want to stop BCP asap or wait one more month.
(will write my own response in a few - dinner is ready)
Re: What factors are/did you consider when deciding when to TTC?
Money and time.
Money: We wanted to be out of debt first. Ideally we would also have bought a home first, too, but eventually (because of the time factor) we gave up on that dream and skipped ahead to the baby part.
Time: I was pretty sure I was going to have trouble getting pregnant, so I didn't want to put it off any longer. I stopped taking BCP when I turned 29 and was hoping to be pregnant by the time I was 30.
I'm interested to hear about your moral debate. Surely one month won't make much difference? Good luck with your decision!
Ha! So very right... I'm just a little impatient and over analytical.
First - I had to get over the first big debate - whether I was healthy enough and whether I wanted to be a mom. As soon as my specialist said it was ok and I came to grips with the idea that I'd like to give this mom thing a shot... kinda wanted to hurry up and get this process started.
With regard to time - that was already addressed... DH is 5 years older than me and doesn't want to wait much longer and we had waited this long to address my health concerns and for me to decide this was something I was interested in.
Money is not a concern. My job is a bit uncertain at this point, but I'm not really concerned about that - we're well established.
I do have to get a MRI next week - so I'm concerned that I could get pregnant that quickly and harm the fetus (think I'm a little crazy on this worry).
I don't really know what the debate is then... lol
Today is the day I'm suppose to start my next pack of BCP and I currently have still not taken a pill today, but I'm still not sure if I will or not... DH is no help... to quote him "its up to you", he thinks I'm impatient too... but it is him who is concerned about not waiting more years to TTC.
You can always not take the BCP this month and you still have a few days to decide. If you decide this month isn't good then use condoms or avoid ovulation days (for an average woman it's 12-14 days after the start of the last period.) Besides, even if you go off your BCP this month there is a chance you won't get pregnant because you will still have some left over hormones from the pill in your body. If you really want to start next month for sure I would stop the BCP this month.
For our first one we knew we were ready. We just kept trying. I really wanted a baby but I wasn't in that much of a hurry. All of my family except my brother and my grandma have birthdays in Nov, Dec, and Jan. I kid you not, all my aunts uncles cousins etc. It's crazy those 3 months. I didn't want to have a baby in those 3 months but the month we conceived DS I wanted to try one more month before going on a break for 2 months. Sure enough, we have another November baby in the mix. lol.
For our next baby, we are going to start TTC in May (gives us a Feb or later baby) With DH being gone it's helped my baby fever the past few months. When he comes home though we're still going to have a month that is going to be tough to not get pregnant.
Who knows, if we have trouble TTC or are in a hurry to have a baby the Nov, Dec, Jan no baby thing might fly out the window. For right now it works for us.
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No one mentioned waiting a certain amount of time after the MRI - Only that I can't be PG for the MRI.
FYI - MRI is kind of important, if I don't have a clear spinal MRI on file there is a possibility that the anesthesiologist could refuse to give me an epidural when the time comes.
I really think I'm ready to take the plunge... I just hesitate because I don't want to do anything wrong and it all seems to have come together so quickly (I thought I'd have to wait much longer to get the MRI scheduled).
If your MRI is next week, implantation most likely won't have happened yet, so I think you can rule that one out (conception usually happens around the 10th-15th day of your cycle.) Also going off the BCP, your first cycle might be longer than when you are on BCP, so I would say that if you do go off, there probably will be no harm done.
Worst case scenario, you do get pg, but the MRI does something to the baby, at that point you would likely miscarry and not even know it.
Now to answer the questions...it was mostly time. We wanted to be married for 2 years and have time to ourselves first before a child came along. It took a good yr for DS to come along, so the second time around we just went with the flow. We aren't sure if we want a 3rd child at this point, it really depends on money for #3.
By the way - I really love having this place to chat... DH and I have made the decision not to tell family/friends that we're going to TTC because it took us so long to get them to relax and leave us alone about kids (since for the longest time it wasn't a consideration).
I have one girlfriend that I will confide it, but she just gave birth a couple weeks ago and is in Australia, so its kind of hard to get a hold of her...
I would never mention the birthday thoughts on the bump boards.. I think I would get eaten alive! If I were to get pregnant for a birthday in those months so be it. however we're going to try and not actively pursue a birthday in those months.
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I love that you wouldn't post this on the bump boards.. I made the mistake of visiting the "getting pregnant" board on the nest the last few days... those ladies are a little to hard core for me!.
To fill in another one of the gaps about me - I'm not interested in charting or any sort of addition feritility treatment. Literally looking to give this a shot for a year or so... and if nothing happens then it wasn't meant to be and I will go back to being happy about just sharing my life with my DH.
It can be a little hard core over there, but it is a great place to lurk for information.
For us our considerations were time, house, and finances. We wanted to be married for a year or two and have some "us" time, but didn't want to wait forever since DH is 10 years older than I am.
We were also living in a one bedroom basement apartment, and did not want to have a child while living there. Now we've been in our house for a year, are used to the added expenses, and DH has a much better job, so we're in a better place financially to have a baby since I am self-employed and will not get mat leave.
You had mentioned that you were unsure about whether or not to start your next pack of pills. If you're unsure whether or not you want to risk getting pg before your MRI you can still stop taking the pills and just use a back up method. That way your body is off the hormones. In the end you have to do whatever is best for the two of you.
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House isn't an issue either - been in our house for 7 years... were considering buying a summer home or upgrading our house, but holding off any real estate decisions until we know whats coming up with work and a possible baby. regardless, I love my house now and there's room for 3 here...
As for back up methods... considered that... but really not big on that idea. We'll see though....
Yeah, ditto this. You're not going to be pregnant next week.
Good luck with the MRI! Let us know how it goes.
Reading your responses it sounds like you are totally ready (and maybe just not ready to admit it out loud!) Very exciting!
For us, we wanted to have a few things checked off before starting a family (more travel, buy/settle in a house, finish masters). We got most of them done (masters still isnt finished) - when I really thought about it, finishing it before baby wasn't that much of a prioity, so I'll just keep working on that with baby here (although I damn well better be done before baby 2!)
Anyway, it sounds to me like you're ready - I hope you get pregnant easily!
Don't worry - here will be the second place I share (DH gets the first call), you guys will likely get sick of me before too long...
If anyone is still watching this post, just thought I'd give you an update. We've decided to stay on BCP for one more month and debate again next month.
As much as I'm trying not to let work factor into this, I really should... In the next few months work will be offering me a new position in a new location (my current one is ending). DH and I want to try and be as flexible as possible when this happens - because if I don't want the new position, I'll get a hefty severance package (already guaranteed). And well, it would be best to have a job to take a mat. leave from.
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We were ready right away but decided to take some time to enjoy each other before getting rid of the BC.
I am a December baby and HATE it so if I could pick a month to have a baby it would be any month but December.