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(@) Is this normal?
My friend had a baby in early august. My friend is the father. As far as I know, the pregnancy was normal with no complications and the delivery was likewise. But immediately upon birth, the baby (a boy) had major heart issues, lung, brain swelling, and now kidney issues. For seven weeks he has been breathing through a tube, had 4 surgeries (poor little thing), and has never left the hospital, in fact he just lives in PICU (which unfortunately is not even in the same city the parents live in...so they have had to relocate). The list of complications goes on and on and on and every day they send out emails with new health issues. This is their first baby so I can't imagine how stressed they must be. All in all, I'm guessing the care will be half a million, at least (they have insurance but it won't cover much of this).
But....is this normal? Can you go through a normal pregnancy with no health issues, birth a normal weight child, and then face all of these daunting health issues immediately upon birth? I have never heard of such a situation occurring out of the blue. Have you? It honestly makes me not want to have a kid some day...mostly it just makes me very sad for my friend.
Have you ever heard of such a scenario playing out before?
Re: (@) Is this normal?
well, anything is possible, but my guess is no - there was probably some indication during the pg - although whether or not they tested or looked for something (or if she had risk factors) is another story. However, things can get complicated FAST when it comes to health issues and even faster when you are talking about babies. Like, potentially they could have seen heart issues, but the kidney issues might be a compilation of whatever else he is going though. Also, they can easily get secondary infections from just having to be on the equipment. Like the breathing tubes can potentially make it easier to get lung infections.
I'm so sorry for your friend! Hopefully things will sort themselves out and they can get some answers soon.
I'm so sorry to hear about your friends' baby and I hope he begins to recover son.?
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Anything is possible, but I think that most heart defects are detectable during pregnancy. Whether they had the tests to detect those defects, though, is the question. If they weren't considered high risk, they may not have had the kind of testing that would have revealed these issues. Most people who are low-risk/normal don't get fetal echos, for example, which would reveal most heart issues.?
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I was born with a serious heart defect that was completely undetected and unsuspected until after I was born. But then, that was 27 years ago, so most of those tests didn't even exist at the time.?