we are "backwards"

HisCB · March 2010

so at applebees the other night, my FI and i were talking to a couple we are really good friends with about sex. not sure how we got on the subject but, my Fi says he has to turn me down because i wear him out. (he has back and neck issues, and our lives have been exhausting lately)

i do initiate sex slightly more often than he does, but he doesnt turn me down, we just tone down how rowdy we are when hes super tired, if hes hurting we adjust our positions to suit.

the guy friend said that it is very backwards, that usually the girls turn down the guys (hes told me before that he wishes she would initiate the sex more often)

i thought it was funny.

are we backwards?

also i hope that i didnt make my Fi out to be unstatisfying or something, because he never ceases to amaze me and i have no complaints. thinking back, i worry it might have sounded bad.

how might i fix this?

MissusTexas · March 2010

You are not "backwards", and every couple has a different sex life than the next.

I don't think you said anything to make your FI sound bad. If anything, the other guy made his SO look bad. A little redundant, sorry. It's 4am.

SoftSpot · March 2010

There is nothing to fix so don't worry about it. It shouldn't matter what a 3rd party thinks of your sex life.

jpeazybreezy · March 2010

Nope, no "backwards" issue there. Each couple is different, so you can't compare yourself to others. Tell your guy friend to not be a hater, lol.

OMG Guinea Pigs!! · March 2010

You're "backwards" from the stereotype, but on this board, we see about 50/50. I think real life is much different from the stereotype - we have tons of women here who complain they're not getting laid enough.

DCMcQueen · March 2010

OMG Guinea Pigs!!:
You're "backwards" from the stereotype, but on this board, we see about 50/50. I think real life is much different from the stereotype - we have tons of women here who complain they're not getting laid enough.

This exactly. that stereotype was made up of men trying to make themselves look good. It has NOTHING to do with real life. I think a lot of us women wish we got laid more.

Hollylb3 · March 2010

If you're backwards, then I am too. In the past 2 weeks, DH hasn't initiated once, and we've had sex about 5 times. It's kind of annoying because he's always so tired, but if I didn't do it, it wouldn't get done! Trust me, 99.9% of men love it that way.

Violet_McPurpleson · March 2010

Applebee's is sick I can't believe you ate there.

Your friend has some very antiquated views about sex and female sexuality. I bet he does like sex more than his partner, but that's probably because he isn't pleasing her.

OMG Guinea Pigs!! · March 2010

Violet_McPurpleson:
Applebee's is sick I can't believe you ate there.
Your friend has some very antiquated views about sex and female sexuality. I bet he does like sex more than his partner, but that's probably because he isn't pleasing her.

Ditto on all 3 counts.

jkmcnamara · March 2010

Does this sex life work for you two? If yes, then it doesn't need to be fixed.

iteachkids81 · March 2010

Its the same way for us, but DH is 12 years older than me... he's 40, I'm 28... In a few years he is definitely going to need some viagra to keep up with me!

vballgirl102787 · March 2010

iteachkids81:
Its the same way for us, but DH is 12 years older than me... he's 40, I'm 28... In a few years he is definitely going to need some viagra to keep up with me!

DH is 8 yrs older than me...I understand the feeling sometimes!!

PS...HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!

marjoriemitchell · March 2010

my H is 10 years older than me, almost to the day) and i initiate a whole lot more than he does. and yes he sometimes turns me down because he's too tired.

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