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Sleepovers
How old were you the first time you slept over at a friend's?
If you are a parent, how old was your child when they slept over? Or how old do you think they will be?
The reason why I am asking is that we want to have all of our nephews (5 boys ages 6-9) stay over for a super slumber party. Two of my SILs have never allowed their kids to stay at a friends, and in the case of one of my SILs, she has never allowed her boys to stay the night anywhere, period (like not even at my ILs/her parents house, approx .5 mile away). Are the days of the sleepover gone? I started sleeping over when I was 5 or 6 and it was always so much fun. I can't imagine not letting my future spawn stay the night with friends occasionally.
Re: Sleepovers
I think I was about 5. My daughter stays at my ILs with/ without her cousins. I was just talking to my friend whose daughter is 2 months older than mine and we were talking about having sleepovers probably around the time they're 3 (this summer). I'm extremely close to these friends and Carlee knows them and their daughter as family, so I feel comfortable.
I can't believe your SILs don't let their kids spend the night.
I used to sleep over at my godparents' house starting at about 6 years old. Their kids were a little younger than me, so they didn't stay over until a couple years later. Apart from them, there was only 1-2 other family friends that I stayed with.
Having been in my field for a while now, I can understand why your SIL is so cautious. It's pretty sad that so much $hit happens at what should be an innocent rite of childhood. I think I would be the same way if/when we have kids.
I started sleepovers at my grandparent's house when I was maybe 4 or 5? It was so fun! My brother and I would trade nights so for the sibling that stayed home, it was alone time with mom. Win-win for both of us.
Friend sleepovers I started when I was in mid-elementary school, maybe 8 or 9? I'm sad that your SIL's won't let their boys spend the night.
I actually think that they are going to let the boys stay, but they're obviously a little apprehensive.
Mostly, I'm just surprised. My 2 SILs whose boys have not done sleepovers live in the same city. Their kids are very close in age, go to the same school and are friends. When I was a kid, we did tons of sleepovers with cousins as well.
Starlily - I can totally see your point, I'm just surprised. If I had a sibling with similarly aged kids, I would totally ship them off once in a while, if nothing else than to get a break
It's not anything that anyone really wants to think about (or would think about) happening in their family, but most molest cases involve family members. With juvenile offenders in particular, most instances involve cousin-on-cousin or half/step siblings.
But then again I am more paranoid than most, since I see only the negative outcomes. No one ever generates a police report for a happy, safe sleepover, which I'm sure most are.
ick, yeah. I didn't think about that.
I stayed with family as early as I could remember. I have a cousin that is only 9 months younger than me. As far as friends sleepovers probably around 1st grade?
I was much older before I slept over in anyone's house (relative or friend). I believe I was about 8 or 9.
My oldest is 4 and I just can't imagine him being able to sleep elsewhere yet. He wakes up early wanting milk and always makes sure we are there if he is unable to sleep. I would hate to inconvenience anyone with his needs.