S/O communication with family

BennettsBaby · February 2008

Hey Ladies!

The previous question got me thinking....how is your relationship with your IL's. It's been hard for me to develop a relationship with mine because they live in another state. It was hard to even tell if they liked me at first. On the other hand my mother and DH get along great. Sometimes I feel bad that I don't have that same relationship with his parents but I noticed that this is a common theme with alot of my married and involved girlfriends.

T*Squared · February 2008

We have a similar situation Bennetts. It's amazing how at ease DH is with my mom, but it's not the same with my IL's. They don't live in another state but they do live about 2 1/2-3 hours away. I know they love me to death, but I'm just not as comfortable as I think I should be with them. I can't pin point what it is.

I know I should attempt to maybe talk to them every once and a while whenever they call DH, but I'm not a phone person and hate trying to make conversation when there's really none there.

I'm just glad that whenever we do go and visit them, my DH doesn't like to hang out all day with them either which is just fine by me. I know, that's mean, LOL.

Mrs Huntress · February 2008

I barely have a relationship with them. I see them quite often but we are very different. They always refer to me as high class and sadidy(sp?) which I am not but they are very GHETTO and sometimes we just don't mix well. They are fun to be around at home but in public they can be very embarrassing. Although for H I am trying to work on being around them for long periods of time.

sldandridge · February 2008

Hmmm, it has been interesting... We speak and my MIL does try but it sometimes seems not normal... And actually my brother and I were discussing this not too long ago and I asked 'Why can't all MIL's be like our mom?', his response 'Well our S/O's just got lucky!!!". Ask our S/O's and they will say that too!

Tammy L · February 2008

Nope... no relationship. She says and acts like she likes me, but I never really liked her. I am not good at faking the funk so I just chill and be quiet.

I try not to call her with DH around because she always wants or needs something. (rolling eyes) She tries to complain and whine so I'll 'help' her get it out of DH. Which never happens, I give him a heads up so he can just say no before she ask.

His dad and brother I never and I mean never speak to on the phone. Just haven't, don't even know their phone numbers.

poppin · February 2008

Im late but Ill tell it any way...We live in a 3 fam with IL (sis and Mother), I have lived with them before in the same apt. (3 bed rm, 1 bath, 3 adults and 1 1yo), we have lived in a six fam together (diff apts.), MIL and i work together in the same field on the same shift, we ride to work together, SIL and i party together(when we get a chance), we spend almost all the holidays together..etc.
So yeah we have our little spiffs but we get over them fast. And yeah so days can be harder than others but all in all we get along just fine.
The only problem is that I am around MIL more than her kids so that makes me the sounding board for EVERYONE so that part sucks and when MIL dose have a complaint she tells me about it so that Im the only one that got to hear it...by the time her kids see her she has gotten iver whatever it was for whatever reason it was and Im the only one who listens to her because her kids ignor her

ibot4291 · February 2008

I really don't have a relationship with my in-laws. When they call DH, I may speak to them on the phone, or visit them for a short while but that's about it. His family is not too close. On the other hand My Mom and DH get along very well. He considers my family his family.

cocadoll · February 2008

Our relationship is okay!!! They live rather close to us and we see them almost every week but it's more of me why we are not closer. I am "shy" which is the wrong word to describe the situation. My sister says "I just don't want anyone in my business" so I don't really open up. They are a really touchy feely family with hugs and all and I am not like that unless it's my family so maybe with time we will be really close. They like me and I like them, I just haven't allowed myself to really allow a close relationship. My parents live in another state, but when we are around my DH fits right in. All of my BIL and SIL are really close to my mom so that's not a first.

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