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MrsNicole&Brian808 · March 2010

I saw a very good friend and co-worker today. I hadn't seen or spoken to him since Christmas. I was looking forward to sharing our baby news with him. I knew he and his wife have been TTC for a while and was hoping to hear some good news for him. I waited for the right moment to share our news with him when he tells me, "Oh, we found out this past Monday that my wife has ovarian cancer. She's having a hysterectomy in 2 weeks, with chemo to follow." Geez. My heart sank. Finding out you have cancer is already quite a blow, but to have that coupled with knowing you will never be able to bear the child you have always wanted...I can't imagine how she must feel.

My heart breaks for them. On the way back to my office, as I tried to process this news, I started feeling terribly guilty. A lot of "why"s crept into my mind. Why me? Why not her? When I got back to my office, I went straight to the bathroom and just cried. This makes me even that much more grateful for this pregnancy and everything (good and unpleasant) that comes with it. Thanks for letting me exhale a little. Some of my co-workers know about my pregnancy, but I'm not really sure they can relate to how I'm feeling right now.

sanae78 · March 2010

I don't even know them and I have tears in my eyes. Blame the hormones? I would be devastated to be in their shoes. I totally see how you feel. It really makes you appreciate your pregnancy even more. I should be more appreciative, I guess, too. Even through my frustrations right now with a baby who won't sleep.

MrsIH · March 2010

Oh Nicole, it's heartbreaking to hear this

I'm sorry and yes, how do you process something like that? I will pray for both of them and hope that the treatment goes as well as it possibly can and that she makes a full recovery. I also hope that the future is bright for the two of them. *big hugs to you*

beachbubbles · March 2010

nicole-I can totally relate to what you are feeling-a few months ago i posted about a very dear friend of mine who is on her 4th round of cancer-already had a hysterectomy, lumpectomy for breast cancer and is now on round 4 which is quite scary. Like you I felt like why not me-why her-why so young, etc...that being said it is normal to have such a wide range of emotions-but as devastating as this news is-it is that much more important to be thankful for the blessings you have in your own life-sorry it probably sounds so trite.

vanilla15 · March 2010

that is really so sad. I am so sorry to hear about your friend. I can't even imagine how hard that must be to cope with. Lots of thoughts & prayers for your friend & her family.

lisakeiko · March 2010

That's such sad news. I'll be hoping for the best for your friend and his wife.

HulaLove · March 2010

That's such sad news for your friend and his wife. I wish them all the best during chemo and recovery.

chikarakobu · March 2010

This really is devastating news for anyone to go through. I often think "why them? Why not me, or someone else?" too. I really have no answers for that. My heart breaks for your friends, too. *hugs*

SimpsonOhana07 · March 2010

That is soooo sad. Very sorry to hear about your friend and his wife.

Sendng loads of good thoughts & prayers to them and their family

MrsNicole&Brian808 · March 2010

beachbubbles:
nicole-I can totally relate to what you are feeling-a few months ago i posted about a very dear friend of mine who is on her 4th round of cancer-already had a hysterectomy, lumpectomy for breast cancer and is now on round 4 which is quite scary. Like you I felt like why not me-why her-why so young, etc...that being said it is normal to have such a wide range of emotions-but as devastating as this news is-it is that much more important to be thankful for the blessings you have in your own life-sorry it probably sounds so trite.

Alix, this doesn't sound trite at all. You are right on with what you said. While I do still have the conflicting emotions, these types of situations really put our own lives and problems into perspective. The part that got me was that my friend's wife is still young. Late 30s, I think. The doctors were not expecting to find ovarian cancer at her age.

Thank you all for your warm words, thoughts and prayers.

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