If you were to do it over tomorrow

nicoleabrock · March 2010

would you have the same people in your wedding party that you had when you got married?

Karen2905 · March 2010

Yes.

If I had more money, I would have more.

Reinedumonde · March 2010

Yup! Our wedding party was very small and just family and I liked it that way.

mom2one14 · March 2010

I would have all my same girls, for sure. DH and I were just talking about how he may have had a few more of his guy friends as ushers, or groomsmen, but I think the wedding party we had was just perfect.

mikesboo23 · March 2010

I would do the whole wedding differently if I could go back but as far as wedding party we'd have all the same people except for my cousin. I would have never asked her if I knew how things would be now.

wittyschaffy · March 2010

lol - I would have booted the guys and just had my sisters! :-P We had a little un-necessary drama with one of the groomsmen. Hubby and I haven't talked to him since the wedding in fact.

My dad didn't know the guys and so he had a little sit down with Hubby and his friends and just nicely asked that they keep their toasts tasteful and that it wasn't time to embarass the bride and groom. Everyone has a skeleton or two in their closet but this wasn't the time to bring it up. Hubby said it was totally non confrontational and very chill.

However, said groomsman has a problem with authority and got drunk as a skunk and started spewing some horrible things at the reception about my parents and their hospitality (hmm, pretty sure my parents paid for his dinner 2 nights in a row, bought the booze he got drunk off of, paid for his buff and shine shave the morning of the wedding, I bought his transportation for the day, etc. etc. etc.) and kept hitting on my sister all night.

He's a butthead.

Witchys_Woman · March 2010

I didn't have a wedding party since the whole thing was a big fat surprise. However if I could do it over again I would love to have shared some moments with my friends as bridesmaids.

Milliechel67 · March 2010

Yes, I would have the same people. I would add one girl though. I regretted not having one of my roommates pretty much as soon as it was too late to get her a dress... I was just being dumb about not being uneven with the boys and was worried her sister (who was also our roommate the summer before the wedding) would feel left out if I didn't ask her too.

miss.kayla · March 2010

I would but, things have been weird with two of the girls since the wedding. SIL gave me a hard with everything before the wedding so we haven't really talked much since and my moh has drifted away since meeting a new guy. why do you ask? some weird things going on?

juangela · March 2010

We would have skipped the unnecessary drama we had when one of DH's groomsman dropped out the wednesday before the wedding (he didn't have the money to travel to VT...cause you didn't know that would be an issue from day one?) and just had our brothers and my cousin, like it ended up.

I would keep my girls, for sure. I might add 1, actually.

krc18 · March 2010

I only had three since two dropped out (one was for financial reasons & I am glad she did and we haven't talked since the wedding and the other was due to pregnancy and I wish she would have been able to be in it) but I wish I didn't have to ask my SIL. Its DH's only sibling but she is such a b!tch. She was talking crap about me to my best friend & my sister (my other 2 girls) the whole time (please like they aren't going to tell me). She complained about every.single.thing. and would not participate in some of the pictures (she is 24, I mean how childish is that) and just caused drama and misery. So that is what I wish I could have changed, her being in it and my friend who had her babies the week before our wedding, I wish she could have been there.

amyngreg · March 2010

Yes, we'd have the same- no more, no less. Our WP was perfect and I was absolutely floored at the love and generosity our friends and family showed us the days around the wedding. I love all of them.

Muffin'sMom · March 2010

Even this many years later I wouldn't have changed a thing...

kellieandjason · March 2010

NO!! After we asked people to be in our wedding party and they said yes, our relationship went ot hell with them. Out of our entire wedding party I would keep 2 of my girls and added 2 different ones in and I know for a fact that DH would of changed out one of his groomsmen.

tmm140 · March 2010

I kind of wish I didn't have to have my sister in the wedding. We aren't that close, I felt kind of obligated. But my other one def.

kelnyc · March 2010

Yes, but I may have chosen a different maid to be the 2nd MOH (we had 2 and 2 Best Men).

Cipolla2Be · March 2010

Probably...a few members of the bridal party made things more stressful during the planning and the week of. DH and I originally didn't want to have any bridal party members....just us. Then we went to BM and MOH. Then we didn't care and I had 4, he has 5. Now that it's over with I don't care, but I did at the time.

mandyandmike2009 · March 2010

NO. I wouldn't have asked 1 and would have added another girl. As for the guys, that would have stayed the same.

chance_encounters · March 2010

Of my 3 I would have changed one. Not because a dispute but because she was gonig through a divorce and things were really hard on her. The main thing I would have changed is my wedding cake. Everything else was perfect!

chayer227 · March 2010

No. I would have waited to ask anyone (we asked immediately when we called to tell of our engagement). I would have only asked 2 of my college friends (the third didn't answer my engagement announcement phone call, didn't return my call, and I had to call her back 2 days later - should have been my red flag. Halfway through my 15 month engagement, she backed out of mine to be in another wedding that was planned quickly. We have not spoken since the day she told me.) I also wouldn't have asked my SIL, but felt obligated to.

I think he would have changed things as well. His 2 cousins showed up empty handed to the wedding, and were more interested in doing their own thing at his b-party...

I would have loved to have just my 2 BFFs from college, and his twin brother and his sis on HIS side.

scottnsissy · March 2010

We got married by a judge I clerked for with just our parents present. Our original plans involved a wedding party of 3 on each side and I'm glad it didn't wind up being that way. One of the girls I'd asked shortly after we got engaged I didn't really talk to in the months leading up to the wedding. Thank goodness we changed plans. Once we stopped listening to what other people wanted us to do we wound up with the perfect day.

psuB+M · March 2010

We wouldn't change a thing! our wedding party was awesome!

kelliejo83 · March 2010

Tomorrow? Yes, we'd use the same party. As me in a year or two and my answer might change.

lisast · March 2010

Sort of! I'd for sure keep my MOHs, but my younger cousins I would think twice about and would have had my 2 male best friends instead! One bridesmaid we actually added about 3 days before the wedding (long story!), and in retrospect - would have asked her from day 1! Didn't have an issues with it going the way it did - just would have been more fun/relaxed the other way.

bethicacon · March 2010

I would definitely change my wedding party. I wouldn't have had the person who was my MOH in the party at all. I started having a lot of issues with her from the time she shot our engagement pictures (she is also a part time photographer). I would have had my BM that stood second in line as my MOH, the my sister, and DH's one cousin as my third girl. We definitely would have kept the same guys and the same kids.

2dBride · March 2010

Our wedding party consisted of my son and my daughter. I would definitely have the same people if I were doing it over again.

dvshaw · March 2010

I would have kept my girls the same, definitely. We didn't want DH's brother in the wedding party, but we kind of had to. And he added all sorts of drama... so aside from him, that's the only person we would change.

Oh! And we also had two people drop out because they were pregnant... and to be honest, it might have been better that way.

KatieintheCity · March 2010

Without a doubt. The people I picked (one guy, four gals) have all been in my life for many years and have seen me through good and bad. They're all people I'm positive will remain influential and important to me for the rest of my life. It was a very simple choice for me once I used that criteria!

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