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Do people get a baby shower for the second + baby?
I'm just wondering becuase I just got invited to a baby shower for someone's second baby and they have another full registry full of baby stuff.
Re: Do people get a baby shower for the second + baby?
I didn't, but I've been to a few.
On one hand, I think it's a little strange -- especially in my case (2 girls, born almost exactly 3 years apart, so no real excuse to need "new" stuff). Even if someone has a baby of a different sex, I think they should have planned ahead and purchased more "neutral" stuff. And really -- it isn't anyone elses responsiblity to supply you with new baby gear.
On the other hand, I wouldn't know how to politely decline if someone offered to throw me a second shower. And showers are fun and if done on a smaller scale and tastefully (maybe just a diaper shower or something) I think it could be fun.
I had a registry at BRU for my 2nd pregnancy. I wanted the 20% completion coupon they send out to buy extra stuff when DD2 was born--- I never told anyone I had it, and no one purchased from it.
If I got an invite that I thought was too gift grabby, I just wouldn't go. But chances are, if I got invited to a baby shower for a second baby, it would be for a good friend or relative, and I would have purchased something for the mom & baby anyway.
My thoughts exactly.
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Maybe I've shared this before. I was invited to a baby shower (via klassy text message) for someone who was having her FOURTH daughter. Her baby daddy also already had two children. That makes this kiddo number six. They had five out of six children under the age of six.
I did not attend the shower, but I sent a gift equivalent to what I would have sent as a congratulations when the baby was born. Then I didn't send a post birth gift.
I agree with all sentiments posted, but wanted to share my own registry experience.
I got to sit with a woman who was registering for at least her third, if not fourth daughter. Not only did she joke that her "message" on the registry would be 'It's the last one!' or 'Yes, it's ANOTHER girl' but her mom was with her and the shower convo went:
BRU woman: How many people will you have at the shower? [referencing the invite inserts]
Baby mama: I don't know Mom, how many?
Baby gramma: [hesitates] I guess about 50?
Baby mama: Ha. Yea, well, I did just put something on Facebook about it so I'm getting a bunch of addresses sent to me.
It took all the strength I had not to crinkle my Miss Manners nose. And now I hope she's not a Nestie.
wow, just wow. I love these stories. I don't get the whole "sprinkle" thing. I agree - you buy gender neutral stuff the first time around (except clothes), so there shouldn't be a reason for another baby shower! I don't think my mom would throw me one for a 2nd kid, and if she thought about it I'd tell her no.
I completely agree. Aidan's only almost two and already some of our things are not as good as what's out now. The car seat will be outdated by time we have another, and if it's a girl, well we're just plain screwed as far as any clothing besides white onesies go. I dress my boy like a boy and didn't go neutral just to save for the next. I wouldn't even care about the gifts, but more the celebration of another new life coming into the world.