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Well it's now a game folks...
She's playing the "If I bought it I want it back and I'm going to talk to you through notes" game.
Oh boy.
I'll take "God find me a house ASAP" for 1000 please.
Re: Well it's now a game folks...
Ugh
I hope you guys can find something ASAP!
That is part of the process and unfortunatley something that you sign up for when you live with parents or relatives.
Play and let her win and then X her. Works every time.
Wow... just wow...
Here's to a great and fast move!
I gave her flippin' carriage back, but I'm not playing her stupid games. I'm not a child.
Yes, that's what that stupid note taped to me car was about. A WHILE back, I bought one of those cheap-o carriages to use with my niece, she later went out and bought one, she got a pink one and "traded" with me because she thought I'd like the pink one more because it's my fav color (I really didn't give a hoot), her note this morning says, along with my original carriage, on the ground behind my car "Sheri, Can you leave the pink carriage in the garage this morning? Thanks"
I did NOT leave it in the garage, I left it in front of the garage, on the ground. She doesn't want to respect my things, she doesn't get it in return. Not to mention she's had ALL weekend to ask me for it. She even saw me Saturday and talked to me, granted it was just a question about something else.
I hate games. I refuse to play them. I lose all respect for people who do this. I'd be seriously considering having a relationship with her period after this.
Did you have your meeting with the real estate people this weekend? How'd it go?
Hooray! I hope you find something soon! Now that winter is over, there should be more houses going on sale! Keep us updated.
Wait, are you only looking for places to buy? That could take a while, right? At least judging from Aria's and Bella's experiences.
I would be looking for a place to rent in the meantime, but I can't imagine dealing with her sh!t for months...
Good luck, sweetie! I really hope you can find something you like and works for you soon!!
I agree. At this point, if M didn't want to rent, I'd go ahead get a place of my own until you found a house to buy. She seems intent on being toxic right now.
I've already said I would do this, and he begged me to stay with him. He's afraid if we get out and rent, obviously the rent would be 2x's what we're paying now and we'd never get a house. I told him I would rid through the storm with him. I know I probably have no right in b!tching about it if I refuse to get out of the situation if I can, but I can't leave him.
She is behaving this way because she knows she has no control over you. Its definitely mental, and definitely toxic. I agree, as long as the notes are not especially demanding and you have the time to comply, just deal with it for the time being. You can't win with crazy.
I'm glad you got preapproved and now you can begin the shopping process. Don't let your urgency to get out of the in-law house rush you into buying something you will hate later on down the line. This is your first big investment, try to take the time to make a smart purchase. You may live there for 30 years, you need to like the place.
If her behavior escalates again I would suggest getting some legal advice on how to protect yourself.
That blows!
Ooh... check out VRBO.com (vacation rentals by owner - but there's lots of monthly options - if you need to bridge a gap between places)
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Ugh. She is such an Asshat! Seriously.
That is soooooooooo awesome that you are prequalified and can really get serious about getting out of there! I hope the look goes quickly for you. Just dont settle on something because you want to get out of there, you will be stuck with this place for a while, so really make sure you want it and arent buying it out of trying to get away from her. DOnt let her push you into soemthing you dont totally love
Good luck!
I guess I don't see finding a place of your own as "leaving him" since it would be temporary situation, but that's me. I'm planning on moving out of NYC this spring (hopefully!) to job search in MA while J stays here because we still need health insurance. It will certainly suck, but it's for the best. He'll move back when I find employment and new health insurance.
I don't mean to criticize, I just wanted to offer a different perspective. Only you guys know what's best for you!
Do I need to send her a cease and desist on firm letterhead?
Not that I could... but it would be fun.
Next time she asks for something, tell her that the Small Claims court will decide.