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Men vs. Women?
So I realized something today. Men are WAY more content than women. I am sure I knew this before but today it really hit me how different men and women are in that aspect.
Us women are never organized enough, pretty or skinny enough, or efficient with our time enough. We should make more home-made meals, we should do a better job or keeping the house clean, we budget ahead of time for Christmas this year. On and on and on we go. We never stop critisizing ourselves. We are always thinking of self-improvement, therefore, never truely and completely happy with oneselves for how they currently are (something a buddhist once told me, and quite true).
I am not saying men don't do this just not nearly enough as women.
Things I currently get down on myself for:
Not being organized enough, putting off declutter and setting up the basement, not putting more effort into meal-planning, and not losing this weight as fast I want to.
Care to share your list?
Re: Men vs. Women?
Eh, I'm not sure I believe that. My husband has quite the list going... I think men are just generally more secretive about their lists.
I think that is a pretty big generalisation. I know a tonne of men that are not content with themselves for varying reasons and many women that are.
My DH is much harder on himself than I am. We may not have the same "list", but his often deals with bigger stuff.
I think it goes more with your personality and how much you buy into gender role stereotypes.
I agree with annabelle. My DH is a much bigger worrier than I am about everything.
Although I am harder on myself about things like my weight/looks and cooking (as in, I do not know how and am procrastinating about learning)
I am an excessive worrier and I'm ok to admit it.
I think men just don't share their concerns as much... maybe b/c they don't let it fester as much. DH mentioned to me the other day that his commute to/from work is when he contemplates left.
I wouldn't say my concerns are about improvement... more just making lists and trying to get to everything... I have a ton of stuff going on these days (work, school work, decorating/renos, work, booking travels, work) and there are not enough hours in the day for me to get done what I need to and for me to be a happy person. DH is being good about trying to pick up and help where he can. Unfortunately, he can't do my schoolwork for me!
Ah, good point!