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Ummmmm....I feel guilty :(
Soooooooo This guy that is from my past, Like 18 year old Agent past, he is a local DJ here in town. We are still friends after all these years, its never been ackward, despite a one night stand when we were 18...we were kids, whatev.
So Saturday night I go out for a bachelorette party, she wants to go where this guy is a DJ...totally fine with it. We are friends, and I am not interested in other guys, I heart the DH big time!
I bumped into him and he was totally weird to me, like he didnt know me. The last time we ran into each other was maybe a year or so ago (When my hair was still long). I asked if he knew who I was and he kinda just smiled and trotted off. I was feeling pretty down, as the club is mostly hot little 20-somethings and there I was with my soccer mom hair and in a dress that could easily fit in at a parent teacher conference.
Well I got this email this morning from him:
Sorry if i seemed a but off when you approached me! That haircut...not that you have ever looked anything more than 25 but that short hair makes you look 10 years younger than my grizzly ass so I was just a bit unsure for second if you were who I was talking to and I was afraid of looking foolish and calling some 21 year old girl I barley know Kirstin, haha:)
Is it wrong that this totally made my day and made me feel better about myself? I totally only have eyes for DH, he is my one true love 
I dont think I have had a compliment from another guy since the e-ring was slipped on my finger that wasnt gay....so yeah...am I terrible? I feel guily for feeling good about someone saying I looked younger then I do.
Have you received compliments from other men since being married? Do they make you feel guilty or good?
Re: Ummmmm....I feel guilty :(
I wouldn't feel guilty...that's an awesome compliment! Go Agent!
I've gotten compliments from other men since being married...but mostly from DH's friends so they're given in a neutral way. But, it still puts a little spring in my step. DH compliments me a lot, but I still feel good getting compliments from others, too.
Trust me... I take all the compliments I can get! No guilt necessary!
That's awesome! Truly, it is!
Thanks girls
I guess maybe this was my first compliment since being married, from someone other then my hubs or a family member...so maybe I didnt really know how to take it?
What Jenny said!
I've gotten compliments from guys and even when I've been out and about w/out DH, I've had a couple guys see my wedding ring and say "he's a lucky guy". Stuff like that totally makes my day! It really does make you feel more confident and that radiates back home and benefits DH
Sometimes I prefer to go out with DH to avoid the doucebags out there that don't even care that you are wearing a wedding ring!
What I sometimes feel guilty about (although I don't think I should) is when someone I dated in the past pops up on my messenger or something, and I chat with them for a little while (although completely innocent conversations and they know I'm married)...it still feels good to get attention from guys besides DH once in a while.
Don't feel guilty...you didn't solicit that compliment - he gave it freely.
Honestly, until I was dating DH I never had people hitting on me. I think the confidence boost that DH gave to me created this aura around me like "I'm taken...but you can still try" and I got hit on every time we went out. It was weird - but made me feel so good.
Guys want what they know they can't have.
Good for you for looking HOT !
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DH loves it when he (cause I'm oblivious) says he sees other guys checking me out... makes him feel like-hey hey hey! I am the ONE with HER...
It's nice!
Take it and feel good about yourself! No need for the guilt. You look good girl!
I recently became FB friends with a HS boyfriend. He told me I still look hot as ever. I did not tell DH, but it sure made me smile!
One of the parents at my school told me I was beautiful at the beginning of the year and asked if I was single. However, he's just creepy so I just walked away.
If it was a different person I may have taken it and felt good about it, so don't feel guilty! Especially with someone you have a past with. That's just what I think anyway..
I totally tell DH too. And, he has told me about when his friends say something to him to compliment me. I think he secretly likes it...like a big ego boost for him, like yeeeahhh that's MY girl or something. He usually gets this look on his face, and you can totally tell that's what he's thinking.
Me too. And he tells me when he gets hit on riding the subway . . . which happens a lot.
A: I wouldn't feel guilty. 'Tis an innocent and nice compliment, thats all.
B: I get hit on everyday.
(By dirty old men at my job).