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for the guys...
So I decided to go off the pill because it was making it really hard to be aroused and ruined my sex drive. My gyno appt. isn't until the end of this month which means condoms until then. Last night DH really wanted sex and he started using the "Crown skinless skin" condom and it was good for me, but he stopped about a minute into it and said that he just couldn't feel anything and it wasn't going to make him c*m.
We have been married a year and have never used condoms (I've been on the pill), and we were both each other's first when we got married so the point here is that DH has never in his life had to deal with condoms and he has gotten used to sex without one. I told him that I think it is really a mental thing because I have a lot of friends who use condoms and also this brand was supposedly one of the best.
Actual quote: "It feels like jumping in a puddle with rainboots on!"
HAH. But seriously! This is a problem! I dont want those damn hormones in my body anymore. Do guys really not feel anything with a condom on?
Re: for the guys...
He's being a huge baby about having to use a condom and this is his way of pouting. If it were impossible to come with a condom on, nobody would use them.
Tell him to knock it off.
My H never had any complaints - its either that or a baby.
He needs to grow up. MOST men go years only using condoms during sex.
I think it's going a little to his head and he's being a little dramatic.
My H says that you can definitely still feel things it's just a little different, less sensitive in some cases.
Does the condom he's using fit him properly? If it's not tight enough he might be having problems because of that, or you could try thinner condoms (trojan has good ones that are thin)
you could also try putting a LITTLE drop of lub in the end of the condom tip (apparently that makes it better for the guy...we've never tried it though since we rarely use condoms)
I'd just make sure it's being put on properly, and instead of putting it on as soon as he gets hard wait until he's good and ready to go already and see if that makes a difference.
my H has used condoms for years, we have tried many different brands and types and he never said he couldn't feel anything. He's just being a baby, sounds like my cousins fiance though. He refuses to use them so she always stress's that she is pg.
I don't think ANY man really likes condoms and most settle for coming to terms with them as lesser evil than no sex at all. You could try the ones with the baggy tip andn theres one with a spiral baggy tip which does give more sensation. However, then it's the friction of the condom that brings you off, not the woman......so, self-defeating in many ways.........Also, the friction of the baggy condom tip can be a bit unsubtle or even irritating sometimes.
....Perhaps the best way with condoms that I have found is to use them to give her lots of hard thrusting when she needs it, knowing you won't be able to c*m, but come out and remove the condom before finishing some other way than penetration!...there's lots of ways to *** with a woman than just inside her vagina.
Uh, you realize this is not what most women need, right?
Sorry for being tardy to the party....
It may be that he can't feel anything with that brand of condom. I would highly suggest before you tell him to just suck it up and deal with that brand, try out some other options. There are TONS of styles, types, feels, etc out there, give some a shot, see if it helps. Possibly the "shared sensation" type things that have a stimulating lubricant inside the condom that provides a different feel for the guy during the act.
ETA:
Not feeling anything with any condom is pretty well bullshyte. Personally, I could always feel things with a condom on.
This.
my h admits it feels better without them, and he does complain about using them but it's either he uses them or no sex. I recommend the trojan ecstasy, they're super thin. Magnum makes them as well if you need the larger size.
He's big a baby about it though, and unless he wants a kid now, he needs to understand that it's necessary unless you choose to start charting.
Suggest he get snipped... Its reversible, so you can TTC later (usually - if there are no complications).
No doubt two surgeries are worth being able to have condom-less sex whenever you both feel like it until you decide to TTC.
I would HIGHLY recommend finding another method before going this route. Besides the cost involved, it's highly rare that it is successful to reverse if you want to have children--I know of more than one situation where it wasn't reversed.