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Vent: fb/mommies/new babies
I hope in writing this I don't offend any of you and I don't think that I could because even if any of you have ever said or posted this type of thing it was very few and far between so it is not meant in your direction.
I really am starting to wonder if moms realize how horrible they sound about their kids on facebook. I have SEVERAL moms and new moms that post status updates about nothing but b!tching about their children and their chlidrens lack of sleep. Not even a single oh i love by baby so much mixed in the bunch. It drives me fluckin mad. When there is nothing but negativity posted all day every day about how horrible your kid is and how much it screams and how little sleep you get, etc. it really starts to make them look like a bad person or a bad parent, do they realize that?
One inparticular will post every single morning how little sleep she got and how loud her kid screams and asks when other people will come help her clean her house bc of her lack of sleep....or "OMG I wish someone would come over here and put my kids to sleep" WTF!?! She's a SAHM with 2 under 2. No offense but that was YOUR choice.
I am no parent so of course I can sit here and say all of this without a clue because I haven't been there but I just don't get it about some people. Having a child shouldnt translate to you being a victim of sorts.
Does this drive anyone else crazy or is it just me?
Like i said, this is NONE of you......and even if it was, I probably wouldn't even notice because I play favorites like that. I don't think I have ever seen or read a Novembie Mommy NOT soaking in every moment with their babies 
gah that was all over the place. sorry i'm busy and had to get that out fast.
Re: Vent: fb/mommies/new babies
Ugh some people.
I havent noticed any of my FB friends really doing this....but I can totally understand you being frustrated with it. Why would anyone want to say bad things about theid kid day after day? Why put tht negative stuff even out there?
I have a sore spot for this kind of stuff too. I think for me part of it is I want a baby so bad and things aren't working out with that so I'm extra sensitive...ok jealous is probably a better word for it. Hopefully it is just new mommy stress hormones and they don't realize how they are coming off to others. Some people lose all kinds of filters when it comes to posting on FB.
This. I haven't really noticed a trend with any of my FB friends either. Maybe something here and there (like if there was a particularly bad night), but nothing more. Though, I totally understand how consistently putting all that negativity out there can be frustrating to read.
If it were a once in a while kind of thing....I would totally get it. Even a bad week kind of thing, I could understand but it is literally every single day. And it was the same way with her oldest when she was younger. I want to print out her entire facebook thread for the last 2 years and make her read it to understand why noone would be shocked if she drowned her children or something.
a&g - I thought about the sensitivity and I get that way more about happy lovey posts about babies but I keep that in check most of the time and it just warms my heart.
I just don't think that griping about your child publicly is appropriate. Maybe I should hide these people from my news feeds.
Veruca, I can relate to that as I know I have a tendancy to do it myself. But like you said, I try to notice it and right myself somewhere along the way.
I'll just start C&Ping them here so that you ladies can share in my frustration
Ack, I totally don't mean you (or any of the Novembies for that matter)! I have IRL people that do that on FB. Like, every hour there's a new update for example, "at the gym," followed by "home from the gym, shower," followed by "shower's over, watching tv," and on and on. And then interspersed are negative comments complaining about traffic, the "stupid guy using my machine at the gym," why there's no hot water, why there's nothing worthwhile on tv. Then I have the ones that seem to only use FB as their soapbox to complain about political and social things...some of them are pretty out there (and say some pretty shocking things), and if I even bother to read them I usually give the
because it makes me question a lot about WTF are they thinking sharing that in public.
Oh, please do this! I love mocking people's facebook faux pas.
And I'm with ya - let's hope their kids don't go back and read mom's facebook statuses from the last 15 years (I would totally do this, btw!) and find out what she REALLY thought about them.
Wow... glad I don't notice people I 'friended' doing this!
I think I took out my 'toxic' friends, though... and I def do not post what I do every minute... how annoying... I figure no one really cares...
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I know what you mean Karrey. A cousin, by marriage, was saying the other day(right in front of her 3 yr old) that she should have put her up for adoption the second she popped out...ARE YOU SERIOUS.. I mean I know that a 3 yr old doesn't understand adoption but I'm sure she understands mommy doesn't want me.
Now she is a handful but that's only because her mom won't disapline her.
It's just so sad, that little girl is precious. I would take her home with me.
And Cassie - that is exactly what I mean.....your choices.....make the best of it, ya know? Because trust me, what you think is bad could be paradise for someone else.
Exactly. You and every other novembie mommy can find the sweet moments at 3 am to be cherished. I hear of Sweetface waking up and screaming but not for a minute do I think that Aria would lock her in a closet and leave her there. I vision Katie snuggling up with Bebe at 2 in the morning tracing every inch of her skin and soaking it all in. This is why the Novembies are awesome!
Sorry my post was so garbled. Damn iTouch.
The examples you guys talked about above are just sad. I wish people knew what they were putting out into the universe, and basically asking the universe to send them more of.
But just to offer an alternative point of view...
The whole pregnancy/new baby situation comes with a flood of other people's wistful or nostalgic beliefs about what the experience is like. You just get barraged with everyone coming up to you and saying "Isn't it wonderful?" "Aren't they perfect?" "Isn't this a great age?" "What an angel!" "You're simply glowing!"
At some point the sachharine gets to you, and you start cracking jokes. "That glow is my bursting capillaries" or "You should hear this angel at 3AM" It seems like it's your job to demystify the situation for people.
Plus, agony gets the most attention - and we all know what kind of AW's people are
I agree with Aria's alternate point of view. I am NOT enjoying pregnancy and I get such pitiful looks from people if I ever admit that, that I usually keep it to myself. I am sure that there are things about motherhood that I won't be in love with either. But really, there is no reason to broadcast that EVERY SINGLE DAY.
I have a girlfriend with a severly autistic daughter. She posts about her often, but her posts are usually along the lines of "God bless Lucy who was such a trooper while undergoing tests for the past three days." or "I thank God every day that I have her to show me patience and that my problems are trivial". Talk about turning things into a positive!
I hope that you would all tell me to STFU if I ever spoke about my daughter with such disrespect. I'm grateful for the chance to be a mommy . . . its a lot of hard work, but I count my blessings every day. I wouldn't want Bebe to look back years from now and think for one second that I didn't WANT to be her mommy.
JMO, but I have noticed a lot of my friends who are negative about their children have no help at home and are really overwhelmed. I am very lucky that we have family close by to help whenever we ask . . . and I get one night each week baby-free. Its a sanity saver for sure.
If that were the case for this girl, I would be able to understand it to but she has help. LOTS of help. She chooses not to accept it so that she has more to complain about.