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Holy Drama, Batman!!
I was just over on the Relationship boards, browsing (one of the "hot topics" at the bottom linked over there, and I got sucked in- and posted a few times), and they are MEAN!!! I mean, yes, some of the girls deserved it, but they are super jumpy over there, and there is a TON of drama! I think I'm going to stay over here, you ladies are much less scary! Everyone is always so friendly, and no one yells at you as soon as you post something, even if it is stupid.
(On a related side note, my FI goes out with his friends as much as he wants, and I don't care, because I can go out with my friends as much as I want. We aren't leading a "party lifestyle", we keep each other informed, we never cancel on each other's plans, and we never do anything the other wouldn't feel comfortable with, so I find it to be a healthy practice that keeps our relationship fresh and strong. After all, a relationship not built on trust is no relationship at all.)
Re: Holy Drama, Batman!!
Local boards tend to be much tamer. Trust me, I have done my fair share of "yelling" on boards- this one included. I am not alone.
What posts are you talking about? It's not really cool to board bash unless you have specific examples.
Yeah, this board is very tame...I spend a lot of time on the F&B board when I'm on the nest and a load of drama goes on at times (I don't participate)...but when I'm really bored, the relationships board can be definitely be interesting...
I didn't really mean to bash, I was really just intimidated by the agression over on that board. There was one post in particular (recent) where a woman posted about the first year being intense (I guess) and some girls IMMEDIATELY jumped to "OMG divorce bc you obviously cannot handle being married" (paraphrase). Granted, the OP did NOT articulate the real problem, so it may have been construed as more intense than it really was, but I certainly couldn't have seen it as being intense enough to immediately proclaim divorce.
I certainly didn't mean to insult any posters, or bash the board in any way, I really just meant that it seemed a little agressive and that I like this board better
It's easier to get to know people when there are fewer of you, and you are more likely to be aware of the situation before you start flaming someone, therefore most flames here are usually well-deserved.
I'm really sorry if my post came across the wrong way!!
Eh, some people flame everything. There are a handful of people all across the boards who I just ignore when they post anything!
The nest is definitely not for everyone. I know a lot of people who are too thin skinned for it!
Many of the national boards here and on TK = drama. 'Snarky Brides' over on TK used to be called 'Advice from Brides' but it was such a snark-fest that TK finally changed the name. Pretty hilarious. They are what they are and it is always a good idea to lurk a while before diving in on a new board.
I didn't see the post myself, but I can almost guarantee that it was sarcasm. The knot/nest/bump are known for being snarky, and like Punky said some people just can't handle it.
I checked out a few of the other boards as well recently and I was a little scared. I'm very thick skinned, but I'm also respectful so I get what you're saying.
Hilarious about you and your H. All my single friends comment on how much we go out and how great it is that we still do that when we're married. They don't get that you don't go into hiding once you're married. Of course, that may change when baby is on board! I have no idea what to expect when that happens!
I don't consider myself to be too sensitive- I mostly just think what I want and do what I want, and that's all there is to it. I'm just used to the people on this board, and looking over there caught me off guard! I think people are just less considerate of other people's feelings, when there are so many posters that you don't get to know anyone really well. I've only been on this board a short time, but I feel like I know most of your personalities really well- I check pretty much everyone's blog, and I read all the daily posts, so it's easy to get a feel for someone's life. And a lot of the ladies here are good friends, as well, so everyone is pretty respectful of everyone else, unless something legitimately obnoxious happens (a recent thread on this board). It was a little shocking to step out of our little area- kinda like leaving a small town and stepping into the Big Apple lol!
Christy- there was a post about how someone thought it was insane that their DH went out every week, and FI and I spent a good 15 minutes cracking up at that today. I expect we won't go out nearly as much once we start our little family, and I doubt FI will feel as free to leave me home alone (especially at night) when I am preg-o or we have a LO.
(Unrelated- How is the wedding planning business? Are you liking it? I always wanted to do that but had no idea where to start, so I'm fascinated.)
It's all pretty comical. I'm so low drama that I do get a good laugh about all of that stuff!
I love the business, thanks for asking. It's really hard work and I still have my day job so I work around the clock and have very little free time. But my H is super supportive of what I'm doing and he makes time to hang out with me in our office at home when I'm working!
Rynna, I'm really not trying to pick on you. I just re-read my posts and can see that tone is there. I promise I was just observing
But some people on this forum are over the top RUDE. I see it.
This is my point!! See, on this board, ladies care if someone thinks they are being rude (I didn't think you were picking on me, I just wanted to clarify that I wasn't trying to trash the boards)!
I have started reading the other boards more often when I need a laugh, but I wouldn't dare post anything serious. I look for your posts, too, because from what I've seen you only jump in when it's appropriate, but you usually have something undeniable to say!