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Friday Confessions
I'm about to be a brat, so bear with me.
My sister has two daughters. I confess that my husband agreed to dance with one of them at their dance recital for the father/daughter dance, since my BIL can't dance with both at once (-though he could if he wanted to; other fathers do). I confess that two weeks after we agreed to do this, we got a wedding invitation to his cousin on the other side of the state for the same weekend in May. I confess that I told my sister that we may have to cancel the dancing to go to the wedding, and that she seemed pretty pissy about it. I confess that she needs to get over it. We didn't know there was a wedding that weekend, DH and I still love and support our niece, it's just that there are reasons we need to go to this wedding that trump dancing in an 8 year old's recital.
I confess that I have a head cold and I feel icky.
I confess that I've been considering discontinuing my Master's program because I'm uspet with how the program is run.
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This actually concerns me. To be basically throwing the job at you without meeting you in person? I wonder what the employee turnover is in that place.
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I confess that the voice I have been trying to nurse since losing it with a cold got totally shot last night while at a concert. I was screaming my lungs out!!!! I got to meet one of my favorite bands, they signed my shirt and I got a pic with the lead singer!!!! I barely slept last night I was so excited.
I also confess that my cousin is coming to town today and I am not sure what to do with her. We used to be super close then I moved cross country and we kinda fell out of touch. Now she lives here but about 6 hours away. I think me and my sis are going to take her shopping and then to supper.
I confess that I am dreading getting up tomorrow at 5am for our family garage sale but I know I am going to be perfectly fine with whatever money we make. I hate waking up early on weekends!!
I confess that I have shirked at work a lot lately because I am being passive aggressive about getting a promotion with no pay increase.
I confess I just made my first baby-related purchase...but babyhalfoff.com had kid belts for $7.50 and they had a skull one! I'm so excited...even though baby J won't be able to wear it for quite awhile...
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I confess that I dont want to be at work today. Its raining and all I want to do is lay in bed and watch movies.
I confess that I am secertly happy that my mom is going to keep Jaiden on Sat night so that hubby and I can have a night to ourselves.
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**HUG** I'm sorry that you're having the blues. If you're feeling this sad, maybe it is a good opportunity to go see someone. Obviously your hubby is a great sounding board for you but sometimes it takes an outsider to just listen and help you work through things.
I confess that I'm pretty upset right now.
We found out several months ago that we are eligible for the New Homebuyer's Tax Credit because they changed the one rule that had exluded us before.
My step-dad is a tax professional so we let him handle the forms. After we sent them in we got them back saying there was a new version of the form coming out that we needed to use. It took another 3 weeks after that for the new form to come online and we filled it out then noticed that the info on the form said we were still supposed to use the old one.
After several hours on the phone with the IRS, step-dad got 2 seperate people telling him that this was the correct form. It said in the info to include my HUD form. I gave the return form back to my mom on a friday to take to him and told her I would bring the HUD form saturday. She called friday night saying that they re-read it and we didn't need to send our HUD form because of the date of purchase. She said since he had everything he needed, he would mail it that monday.
Today I asked her about it because it's been over 2 months and we've heard nothing. She said that I never gave it back to her and she assumed I mailed it. She insists that it must be laying around my house somewhere and I KNOW I gave it to her.
So anyway...now we have to redo the form and she's insisting that I do need the HUD form so I have to get that out again.
Thank you. If at all possible I do NOT want to go on anytype of anti-depressant drugs. I do not believe that to be the answer. I know you can make changes in your diet and etc. to help you and I would rather do that.I know things will get better and the insanity will go away lol. But for right now....it is just overwhelming. Plus now that I lost the baby I really don't know if I want to do it again but the pressure is on from DH and his family.....
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You get hugs from me, too! I think you can definitely get through this without drugs, just having someone to talk to who can help you work through all of the emotions you are feeling could be very useful. Having an outsider's perspective always seems to help.
On the plus side, your girls are coming home in just a few days!
Have you talked to DH about chilling out about a baby right now? You two are just working through everything and you need some time to process. I'm so sorry you have to deal with pressure from them, on top of everything else. We are all here for you, too.
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I am so sorry you lost the baby. There is never a way to understand things like that. I've never had a miscarriage (that I know of) but I think it's pretty normal to be upset after one. Besides the obvious fact of the loss of the baby, your hormones are all out of whack. It's great that you have an appt set up with the OB/Gyn, and you should definitely feel free to talk to her about anything. That said, DH might have some legitimate concerns/questions that he may want to talk to her about too. I know that if it were me, my DH would be concerned about me and want to hear straight from a doctor that I'm okay. Maybe a compromise would be that he can sit in the waiting room and then once the exam/your talk with the OB/Gyn is over they can call him back and he can ask any questions he has.
Don't pressure yourself to "snap out of it", give yourself time to grieve and your body time to heal. And tell the in-laws to eff off. If your DH is pressuring you about getting pregnant again too you need to have a serious talk with him - whose side is he on here?! YOU and YOUR health and well-being should be his 1st concern.
Not implying at all that you'd need drugs. I think that sometimes it just takes another listening ear to help you get it all out. There are lots of people out there who make a living from listening and not necessarily giving out meds.
Katie, your advice to chance encounters was said perfectly. Ditto all that.
And hugs from me too!
I'm a little late on this, but here is my confession:
I confess that I wore a new shirt to work, and one of my coworkers who is my LEAST favorite person in my life right now, just because she is lazy and makes excuses and never gets anything done, told me how much she liked it. I probably won't ever wear it again. I would have preferred her to not say anything.