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BR - night duty
As I was reading mrspresley's post earlier this week, something occured to me - MH is the one staying home with DS during the day, while I get up and go to work.
Our schedule is a bit screwy though, as DS doesn't like to go to bed until after midnight (and will generally sleep til noon with many interruptions). He would start waking up around 7, I'd feed him, put him back to sleep and get ready for work. This was fine until he started not falling asleep until later, AND waking up around 4:30 wanting to be fed AND then not waking up until 8 or so.
Anyway, the point of this post was that I am the one who goes to sleep with him - waits until he falls asleep, then put him in the cosleeper and lay down. When he wakes up, I'm the one waking up with him to comfort him and rock him back to sleep or get up and feed him, when MH is generally awake until the wee hours of the morning. He will often say "let me know if you need help"... which is a whole other spin off post from mrsp's the other day.
So it's just weird that YHs are working and so you get up with the baby, yet I'm the one who's working, but I still get up with the baby. Is this just a mommy thing? I guess I feel like I'd rather have him sleep better since he's responsible for LO all day, which I feel is important for that person to be awake and aware.
Then again, maybe I'm just sleep deprived and babbling....
Re: BR - night duty
does YH work from home too or does he just take care of B? if he is essentially a SAH dad, taking care of B, then i would say that it would only be fair for you guys to at least alternate on the night time care... or have him do at least 75%... i know i would be happy if MH helped me just 25% of the time, but it's different for us with feedings now since I am BFing and she gets up much less now in the middle of the night...i can't skip a feeding or it'll hurt my supply and if i get up to pump then i might as well get up to nurse her, it's so much easier than pumping.
in any case, i think you have every right to expect him to help out more since you are working full time and he is staying at home. i would just try to help out with some of the night time stuff occasionally so he gets a break every now and then.
Jaime & Brent
Oahu, Hawaii | Sept. 9, 2005
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