Post partum sex

vivalarevolution · March 2010

This might be a common question, i'm never on here anymore but I gave birth about 4 and a half months ago and sex is STILL painful. Is this normal and if so, is there anything I can do to make it less painful? like what is the best position or whatever.. because we went from sex twice daily to once every two weeks.

kmlluvnmh · March 2010

You need to use lube and lots of it. I had an episiotomy with dd's birth and I couldn't do doggy for quite sometime(and actually it is still a bit uncomfortable after ds was born).

megd06 · March 2010

Are you nursing? That can REALLY dry you out, and make it really uncomfortable. You can ask your dr. for a prescription cream I believe that will make it not so dry. Other than that--take it really slow, lots of lube, and use positions where you control depth of insertion. Having it more often than every 2 wks might help too, as uncomfortable as it might be at the beginning.

vivalarevolution · March 2010

i'm not nursing, unfortunately. i dried up after about a month of nursing. I've tried using lube but it really doesn't seem to help.

shadesofbrown · March 2010

Did you have a tear or episiotomy that is still healing? Did you go in for your post-partum check up to make sure everything is healing up well?

vivalarevolution · March 2010

I had an episiotomy but its fully healed. I did go to my check up and they said everything had healed up just fine.

megd06 · March 2010

vivalarevolution:
I had an episiotomy but its fully healed. I did go to my check up and they said everything had healed up just fine.

I'm guessing it's all mental then--it probably hurt the first time--which is completely normal--but now you expect it to from here on out, so you're having a hard time relaxing and enjoying it. I'd talk to your OB and see if there's anything they can recommend, or maybe have them do another exam to double check everything is healed.

lookame3639 · March 2010

After I had my son I couldn't have sex for almost 6 months. I had an episiotomy and I tore and after all that they had to keep me on potosin for 2 hrs after because I wouldn't stop bleeding. I was in so much pain that I couldn't do anything. When I felt down there the stitches were swollen and sex was very painful. After I was cleared for sex and felt well enough for sex it was slow, maybe once a month till I felt like I could handle anything more. I would suggest to take it slow, use some lube and relax. Ask hubby to go down on you to help loosen things up.

ccogbeach · March 2010

Everyone is different. After my first we tried at 2 months and it didn't work and then tried again a couple weeks later and it worked but was not comfortable. It took at least another couple months for it to really feel good again. Usually the first few minutes was the worst and then it got better. After my second, we tried right after I got the go ahead and it was fine almost right away. When I went for my check up after my second son was born I was talking about it with my ob/gyn and she said that after her baby was born it took almost a year for sex to be comfortable and enjoyable again. Keep trying and keep using lube. I hope it gets better soon!

Amber68W · March 2010

It only hurts me if i think about it. If I relax, everything's fine. Just take a deep breath and don't think about it.

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