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BR: a **really** stupid whiney vent
As you all know, I've been having a hard time lately with this pregnancy. Between the twins and the GD and the PUPPP, it's pretty much blown goats. In the last couple of days, I've had a number of people say to me, "Oh don't worry about how you feel right now! After the kids are born, you won't even remember how bad this is!"
Now, I know they're just trying to make me feel better - I understand that. But that has got to be the most ridiculous statement EVER. I'm not saying that I won't think this was worth it after the babies arrive...but forgot how bad this has been? No.
Maybe you forget with a normal singleton pregnancy where you just have the ordinary backaches and whatnot, but I am NOT going to forget how miserable I am right now. I will not forget how physically difficult it is to carry twins, how obnoxious it is to have to stab myself with a needle 8x a day to manage and monitor the GD, or how I'm thisclose to mentally snapping because of the inescapable burning itchiness from the PUPPP. This is not going to magically turn into the most wonderful time of my life in my memories, and I will be genuinely thrilled when it is over and I don't have to deal with any of this anymore (I feel so unbearably guilty saying that, but it's true).
Like I said, I'm not saying that I won't think it was worth it, but there is no way, absolutely no way, that I won't remember how awful this is. (I know I'm not alone...I've been reading posts on other parenting forums about PUPPP lately, and it's amazing how many women say they are seriously reconsidering further pregnancies because they recall how torturous the PUPPP was the first time around and are terrified of getting it again.)
I know this is a stupid, pointless vent...and I know it's coming from a place of extreme frustration because I am SO physically uncomfortable and overwhelmed right now. But I just wish that people would think a little more before making those kind of statements, especially when they have no experience with any of the problems that are making my life hell right now. 
*whew* OK, vent over. Feel free to tell me to man up and stop being so sensitive. 
Re: BR: a **really** stupid whiney vent
it is not a stupid vent! I think you have every right to be annoyed when people say you will forget all the misery. Now, I've never been PG, so I can't comment with specifics of what I went through, but I can totally back you up on your complaint and right to complain. Not a silly vent at all. ((((((((hugs)))))))))
I apologize...I cannot remember if I said you won't remember all of this...if I did, what I meant was that once your little guys are here none of this will matter anymore...seriously. Yes, you will not forget, but it will not take up the energy that it is taking from you today.
When I had GD it was pretty much all encompassing to my day (what to eat, when to eat, testing, injecting, etc.) And since it comes on during the third tri you add in aches, pains, no sleep, hormonal surges, emotional turmoil (the baby is coming!), etc.
As soon as she arrived it was all a distant memory. I kid you not. It was all replaced with her and her needs. Of course they are all-consuming and it's during that time you wonder what you signed up for! LOL!
You've gotten the bad end of the deal with this pregnancy in so many ways Lisa...you're a real trooper! The good news? You get TWO babies to love and who will love you to the ends of the earth. Might make enduring this all a little worth it. At least you'll NEVER have to be PG again! There's got to be some solace with that...while we're not ready to even think about TTC#2 it's already in my mind that I'll get GD again and possibly other issues since I'll be closer to 37 when we're ready to try again.
Anyway, I am so sorry.
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I'm sorry. You've got a lot going on. And I think you've been dealing with it as well as can be expected.
But I also agree with Lori...
I know I've mentioned my sister before and how she had twins 3 months prematurely and was on bed rest in the hospital for an entire month prior to their delivery. She was completely miserable, physically and emotionally -- and even after her girls were born, they had a long road of recovery, heart and eye surgeries, and so on to endure. And my sister was only 20 years old at the time!!! Needless to say, despite that trauma, my sis went on to have one more child 6 years later -- who was, interestingly enough, also a twin, but #2 was lost to miscarriage. She rarely talks about those terrible days... instead, we look back and remember what a joy it was once the twins were born and how cute and tiny they were -- coke-bottle baby glasses and all. I'm sure she still remembers how awful it all was, but I think she processes it differently after the fact.
As Lori (VanceandLori) mentioned recently, sometimes we're so busy talking about how great our pregnancies and babies are that we paint an unrealistic picture of what it's really like. I think many, many women endure a lot of pain/discomfort/fear/other negative feelings when pregnant, so although we can't and shouldn't compare who has it worse, it's natural to feel overwhelmed and whiny sometimes. So this wasn't a "stupid, whiney vent," after all. It's the truth and you're brave enough to own up to it! You're doing great, Lisa. And I hope your babies greet you in this world very soon!!!
No no, don't worry, these were all people IRL, not anyone from this board. You guys have all been incredibly supportive, and I can't thank you enough for that.
LOL and trust me, I do take solace in the fact that this is it for me. MIL was trying to convince me last night that it wouldn't be ("Oh I said with my first that I'd never do it again, and I had two more!"), but seriously, this is it.