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Rant: the baby question
Ok, so I know there are gaining numbers of us who are pregnant or trying to get pregnant... but the rest of you, how often do you get this question?
We were out with some friends last night, and one of my friends was like... "why aren't you drinking? are you pregnant?" Um... no. I just don't want to feel terrible in the morning, because I have to go to work. Then she was like, "well, if people see that you're NOT drinking everyone is going to think that you are pregnant." So I ordered a glass of wine. I definitely did not feel pressured to always have a glass in my hand BEFORE the wedding... I don't know why it's changed so much. I mean, I COULD have gotten pregnant before the wedding just as easily as after, we're using the same precautions. It's just maddening this is what it comes to. ::sigh:: ok rant over.
Re: Rant: the baby question
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It's getting really annoying. I'm going to need some snappier responses so the same people don't ask me every other week. I would have thought, "no, not until I finish my PhD" would have been good enough, but noooooooo.
Long before we got married I made it perfectly clear to pretty much everyone who asked and even some people who didn't that we don't want our own children. We may adopt when the time is right but I have no desire to have my own children. Some people get us grief (ahem, MIL) but most people understand our choice.
I totally hear ya. My sister does the "you're not drinking" thing to me all the time but backed off once I got pretty mad about it. Sometimes a girl just wants a glass of water - sheesh!
The worst I had was when I swapped my bus pass for a parking one at work after I discovered that the bus makes me incredibly motion sick.
I was miserable two times a day and that just isn't cool. When I talked to our office manager about the change out, she asked me if I was expecting. I just looked at her and said, "umm, no. I just get motion sick."
I don't ask anyone else how things are going in their bedroom and I really don't get why people think it is okay to ask you basically the same thing.
It kind of comes and goes for us... DH's family seems to ask more, but his brother has 2 little kids and they might be trying for a 3rd soon, and his sister has been telling people they're trying immediately after their wedding in May. I guess they all just have baby-on-the-brain all the time. DH's SIL asked me this weekend. My answer is always "yeah, someday."
I lucked out in the pregnancy-radar though... I never drink, so they can't think anything of it!
We did pretty much the same thing. Except we don't want kids at all so that's what we've made clear. Everyone still thinks we'll change our minds eventually but they're mostly leaving us alone for now, besides MIL. She tells me every time she talks to me that she's had dreams about babies and asks if there's anything we need to tell them. She said in her dreams she drops them though so it's probably a good thing we've got nothing to tell.
It is so aggrivating at times! When I got home from my honeymoon, like two weeks after, I got the flu pretty bad. I posted a status on my FB saying something along the lines of: "Hate being sick..." One of my girlfriends posted (and I kid you not): "Honeymoon baby?"
On our wedding day, after we had our recessional, my DH's 11 year old brother looks up at us and asks (loud enough for the ENTIRE CHURCH to hear): "So, when are you two gonna make me an uncle?"
Someone gave me a baby/parenting/birth book as a bridal shower gift...should have been a warning sign of what was to come!
Also, now that my SIL is pregnant, everyone keeps looking at me like I'm the next one to get pregnant! I don't have the "wine issue" because I'm not legal age to drink yet, but I do have to watch what I say. If I even mention that a certain food "sounds really good right now," I am IMMEDIATELY bombared with "ooh, craving? You pregnant?"
ACK!