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Hey girlies.... I'm having a rough day....
So yesterday, I'm working in my office in the early afternoon. I go upstairs to take care of some other stuff - and SD (the one who lies/steals) said she didn't want to bother me while I was working, so she'll go down and dust/vacuum while I'm upstairs.
See where this is going??
So a few hours later, I go back down to work - and notice that my laptop keyboard and screen are greasy. And my new leather chair -- has sprays of liquid on it. Hmmmm, that's odd, I think to myself. Until I looked over my entire desk -- and the ENTIRE thing is covered in a greasy film. Including the heat press (which the teflon pad is now ruined from the grease), the clothing I had out to press, the vinyl I had out, my vinyl cutter was covered in grease, my lamp was DRIPPING, my printers (all 3) were greasy, and my other monitor. At that point, i call Erik - who was picking up dinner -- and flip the out.
Fast forward to sitting at the dinner table... I ask SD what she dusted down there. She said only the tv and bathroom. I tell her I don't believe her because all of my *** is covered in Pledge. She says "well, it wasn't me. I didn't do it." Really? Dumb *** ***. Then she says "maybe it's because I dusted the ledge"... the *** ledge is bare wood, ass. Why would you dust it?? ANDDDDDDDDDD - she's not permitted near my office - so she shouldn't have dusted it anyway.
Erik then goes downstairs to look - and flips the out. Based on the angle of the sprays, the drips, and the fact that my equipment is sprayed from the opposite side from where she claimed she dusted, he goes upstairs and goes nuts. She finally admits and blames me for her sister running away - so she took the pledge and sprayed it all over my office. All over EVERYTHING. I wanted to kick her ass. Then she just started blaming me for everything - how Lindsey said I made her leave, how they hate me, etc. How Britt gets everything -- and how her room is even getting re-done. I told her that Britt didn't ask to have her room re-done -- I asked Britt if she'd mind if I re-did it because I fell in love with the concept when I saw it. Erik was beyond words. He sends her upstairs after a few hours of yelling - and we go down to clean the office. I take a step into my closet and slip like I was on ice. She apparently sprayed the entire floor/rug with that *** - and now it's tracked EVERYWHERE. So he dragged her out of bed, flipped the out on her again - and I'm sick to my stomach over the fact that she's now being so manipulative and conniving, that I want to vomit.
What freaking punishment is appropriate??? Nothing phases her. She's already punished thru July. I'm thinking I'm going to take all of her *** away -- and THROW it away. Her studded jewelry, her cut up gloves -- alll the *** crap I can't stand... GARBAGE. She wants to destroy my work and my equipment... she's playing with the wrong person. I'm livid.
And that, my dears, is the next chapter in the life of me.
Ohhhh - Erik made it quite clear that if she chooses to not be a part of our family, that's her choice. But NOTHING she or any of her siblings do will EVER break us up. She didn't like that lecture at all.
See where this is going??
So a few hours later, I go back down to work - and notice that my laptop keyboard and screen are greasy. And my new leather chair -- has sprays of liquid on it. Hmmmm, that's odd, I think to myself. Until I looked over my entire desk -- and the ENTIRE thing is covered in a greasy film. Including the heat press (which the teflon pad is now ruined from the grease), the clothing I had out to press, the vinyl I had out, my vinyl cutter was covered in grease, my lamp was DRIPPING, my printers (all 3) were greasy, and my other monitor. At that point, i call Erik - who was picking up dinner -- and flip the out.
Fast forward to sitting at the dinner table... I ask SD what she dusted down there. She said only the tv and bathroom. I tell her I don't believe her because all of my *** is covered in Pledge. She says "well, it wasn't me. I didn't do it." Really? Dumb *** ***. Then she says "maybe it's because I dusted the ledge"... the *** ledge is bare wood, ass. Why would you dust it?? ANDDDDDDDDDD - she's not permitted near my office - so she shouldn't have dusted it anyway.
Erik then goes downstairs to look - and flips the out. Based on the angle of the sprays, the drips, and the fact that my equipment is sprayed from the opposite side from where she claimed she dusted, he goes upstairs and goes nuts. She finally admits and blames me for her sister running away - so she took the pledge and sprayed it all over my office. All over EVERYTHING. I wanted to kick her ass. Then she just started blaming me for everything - how Lindsey said I made her leave, how they hate me, etc. How Britt gets everything -- and how her room is even getting re-done. I told her that Britt didn't ask to have her room re-done -- I asked Britt if she'd mind if I re-did it because I fell in love with the concept when I saw it. Erik was beyond words. He sends her upstairs after a few hours of yelling - and we go down to clean the office. I take a step into my closet and slip like I was on ice. She apparently sprayed the entire floor/rug with that *** - and now it's tracked EVERYWHERE. So he dragged her out of bed, flipped the out on her again - and I'm sick to my stomach over the fact that she's now being so manipulative and conniving, that I want to vomit.
What freaking punishment is appropriate??? Nothing phases her. She's already punished thru July. I'm thinking I'm going to take all of her *** away -- and THROW it away. Her studded jewelry, her cut up gloves -- alll the *** crap I can't stand... GARBAGE. She wants to destroy my work and my equipment... she's playing with the wrong person. I'm livid.
And that, my dears, is the next chapter in the life of me.
Ohhhh - Erik made it quite clear that if she chooses to not be a part of our family, that's her choice. But NOTHING she or any of her siblings do will EVER break us up. She didn't like that lecture at all.
Re: Hey girlies.... I'm having a rough day....
As always I find it unbelievably hard to accept how much $hit you have to deal with every day..
All I can offer is *Hugs*
Hope the damage in your office proves to be minor
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This exactly. I'm so sorry.
Oh Lisa, lots of hugs. I don't have any advise, but I know that you and Erik will make the right decision.
Ashley & Josh ~ The Reef Resort ~ Grand Cayman~ May 15th 2010
I've really been unable to focus/function normally today. Her blatant disregard for my property - and her vindictiveness frighten me. She already goes to counseling. And even her counselor told Erik last week that she can't help her - and referred him to another one.
To top it off, she has made a very, very, VERY serious accusation about someone else that could lead to prison (not jail - PRISON...) for the other person if the accusation is true. Sadly we don't believe her - and are now having to pay for a lie detector test ($$$$$) before moving forward with any actions.
She really wants to live her life as a victim. She defines herself as the girl who things happen to. "the girl who's mother died", "the girl who's sister ran away from the wicked stepmother", "the girl who's grandmother and father don't speak"... She needs to wake the up.
All this, and we still have trial set for 3/23 for the nonsensical bullshit of the twatwaffle grandmother suing us for child support because Lindsey refuses to live home with rules. Super. Probably best that we not have a child together because my luck, it's his f'ed up gene pool...
First of all, I'm really so sorry you and Erik are going through. Her behavior is completely uncalled for.
What about counseling with all three of you? Maybe speaking with an unbiased third party will at least reinforce what you and Erik keep telling her about tearing up your relationship.
:::Hugs:::
OMG! Where did this girl learn to be so thoughtless and cruel? There is NO excuse for her behavior. Have you thought about taking her cell phone away from her or disconnecting her internet? If that doesn't work, I agree with Katie, boot camp sounds like the best option.
::HUGS::
::blink, blink:: I'm speechless! I literally got the goosebumps and couldn't even think for a minute. who does she think she is?! I agree to maybe doing some counseling with the 3 of you though? This way the counselor can also see what you guys are telling her instead of what she is probably saying to the counselor.
I cannot believe you have to deal with this, I am so angry for you!! how can someone do stuff like this to someone else?! i mean, she doesn't have to be your best friend ,but she clearly lacks general respect for people, especially someone her father loves. I'd take everything out of her room, take away all electronics and make her sleep on a mattress - she needs to EARN things back. unbelievable. I'm sorry Lisa
WOW! I can't believe someone would do any of these things! I'm so sorry that you have to deal with all of this crap.
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Lisa, Erik needs to rip this kid's hair out. I don't know how you keep your cool in that house sometimes...
Oh Lisa I'm so sorry you continue to have to deal with all of this BS. I just feel so bad for you. I can't even imagine destroying anything of my parents...probably because as my mom would put it, "my ass would be grass". Lol, I don't even understand it, but I know it means BIG trouble!
::HUGS::
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This. I don't know how you do it, Lisa. ::HUGS!::