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FB question

Just for fun I'm wondering how many of you have family members who are your friends on FB? I'm not talking siblings, or even cousins, but more like aunts/uncles/parents or even grandparents?

I have always had cousins on FB... they are all around the same age as me, so it's no biggie. Recently I ton of my extended family have gotten onto FB and become my friends. Even my mom. <-that one freaks me out and makes me think twice every time I post something! LOL. I just think it's funny that FB seems to be "uniting" friends & family of all ages. It's cool for me because 90% of my extended family live in MA, so this is an easy way to keep in touch. It's also just a little bit strange, but whatevs. :)

Also - do you think it's Ok for parents & children to be friends on FB? I have asked some people, and it's like 50/50. Some people have said No, they think it's weird and don't want to feel like their parents are always watching. Other have said it depends on the situation. Like for me, I'm 26, married, and relatively normal so it doesn't bother me too much. I don't think my mom is "watching" me at this point in my life, lol. On the other hand, I DO think it's weird when parents are friend with their teenager. Then I do feel like parents are trying to keep tabs... but is that really wrong if your kid(s) need watching?? Thoughts?

Re: FB question

  • Just for fun I'm wondering how many of you have family members who are your friends on FB?  ::raises hand::
    I'm not talking siblings, or even cousins, but more like aunts/uncles/parents or even grandparents?  Yes, my Aunt & my Father.
    Also - do you think it's Ok for parents & children to be friends on FB?  Sure, why not?
    Then I do feel like parents are trying to keep tabs... but is that really wrong if your kid(s) need watching??  Gotta be smarter than the parent...it's called privacy settings.
    Thoughts?  I have groups set w/ certain privacy settings.  People that don't need to see my "regularly scheduled programming" are in a group that doesn't get an "all access pass."

  • I have aunts, uncles, even my MIL on my fb friends list.  I would love for my mom to have it but she has a computer phobia.  Of course anyone who knows me knows I'm not shy by any means...and you get what you see so things like this don't bother me.  After all, I did have aunts and both moms at my bachelorette adult toy party along with some friends. 
  • I win.  My GRANDMOTHER-IN-LAW is my friend on FB.  How do you deny that friend request?!?!  You don't.

    I don't really worry about it because I know I don't really have anything to hide... and I know that she isn't ever actually ON facebook.  At first when aunts and uncles started joining I was totally creeped out - but now I love it and I use FB to keep in touch with everyone, so its nice. 

  • My father and ILs are my FB friends. I'm an adult and have nothing to hide from these people. I think a good rule of thumb is "if you wouldn't want your mom to read it you shouldn't post it". Your employer or future employers could see what you're doing. Umm, maybe I should take down those stripper picks from my bparty...
  • I have both of my parents, my MIL, 3 aunts, and one Grandma.  My Grandma and Mom don't use it ever.  2 of my aunts are never on.  The third aunt just uses the apps and likes her own status updates.  But my MIL and Dad both use FB a lot.
  • most of my aunts, 2 of my uncles, my mom (who always posts on my stuff!!), and cousins are my friends. My family has reconnected with a couple of cousins who moved to TX with their mom after their parents divorced. It's pretty cool. We even have a secret family group to keep people posted on events or whatever.

    I am also friends with old professors, a well regarded principal scientist of my company, old bosses - if I need a reference for anything I have people from each internship, graduate assistantship, job, etc right in the same place! haha.

    Like you, I am not a teenager and have nothing to hide. I've gone drinking with my parents and plenty of my colleagues, so that's certainly not something I'm worried about them seeing! My teen cousins are friends with their parents - they just limit who can see certain things :-)

  • Oh yeah - and my MIL, FIL, BIL, SIL, cousin in law, DH's aunt...
  • imageFutureMrs.McC:
    Your employer or future employers could see what you're doing. Umm, maybe I should take down those stripper picks from my bparty...

    Haha... could you imagine?? lol. I have to say that if a future employer did see those pictures you have, that the would understand they were from a bachelorette party... not your every day life. 

    When DH was working with his family they had a girl apply to work at the flower shop, they did a little "background check" and found her My Space page  which was ALL about smoking pot, it had pictures of her smoking, etc. They didn't hire her.

    When DH was out of work he applied at a place where one of their rules to get hired was you had to give them access to see everything on your FB or My Space page. I think that is CRAZY. 

    Oh, and I thought on FB you could make your photo albums private, to where only friends could see them?

  • imageFutureMrs.McC:
    My father and ILs are my FB friends. I'm an adult and have nothing to hide from these people. I think a good rule of thumb is "if you wouldn't want your mom to read it you shouldn't post it". Your employer or future employers could see what you're doing. 

    This.

  • Yep, my 88 year old grandpa being one them!
  • My mother and a bunch of my aunts are on facebook and I am their friends.  I have had to make some of my profile 'private' from them.  When I post status updates my mom and aunts always seem to think it's family related so I would get texts / calls saying "take that down" because they assume I'm talking about a family issue EVERY time I post something.  Plus those of you who are familar with my mother situation know that she's all drama.

    I have blocked a few of my cousins as well as my 'brother' because of all the drama.

  • I'm friends with both of my parents, my MIL, my husbands aunt, and my grandmother.  (I think that's all).  I don't think my grandmother uses it very much but my parents do.  I don't have anything to hide though.  They know me and I'm myself with them so there isn't any big surprises.  I also agree that if you don't want you mother to see something its probably best you not post it.  I LOVE having them all on their.  All of my family lives so far away (WA, Oregon, Arizona, WY, PA, WV, and St Croix) so its really the only way we can keep in touch.  I don't think there is anything wrong with parents being friends with their kids, even teenagers.  In fact I think most parents should keep a closer eye on what their kids are doing online. 
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  • Yes I have plenty of family from CO that I'm friends with.  There are some family members who I have blocked though, simply because there are some real nosies.  I also decided that my mom wasn't going to be my friend until I no longer lived at her house.  That was way too weird for me. 
  • imagesarlah:

    When DH was out of work he applied at a place where one of their rules to get hired was you had to give them access to see everything on your FB or My Space page. I think that is CRAZY. 

    By the way there are rules in CA about this sort of thing.  They can't deny you a position because you refuse to divulge this info.

  • My Grandmother-in-law is on FB, along with several of DH's aunts and cousins that have friended me after the wedding. It is kind of weird, especially since DH's g-ma is really into computers and is on FB all.the.time. I think she commented on all 1500 of our wedding pics individually, lol. Otherwise it doesn't really bother me, I don't put a lot of super personal info on there anyway becauuse I'm a fairly private person.
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  • imagesarlah:

    imageFutureMrs.McC:
    Your employer or future employers could see what you're doing. Umm, maybe I should take down those stripper picks from my bparty...

    Oh, and I thought on FB you could make your photo albums private, to where only friends could see them?

    Yep, you sure can.

  • imagenatalee215:

    imageFutureMrs.McC:
    My father and ILs are my FB friends. I'm an adult and have nothing to hide from these people. I think a good rule of thumb is "if you wouldn't want your mom to read it you shouldn't post it". Your employer or future employers could see what you're doing. 

    This.

    only if you allow them to.

  • I am "friends" with my mom, SIL's,BIL, aunts, uncle, cousins and some of DH's aunts and uncles.  I don't mind because I don't post crazy pics or posts.  My mom doesn't even know how it works.  I had to hide all of her farm request because she said " I don't want to be a farmer" haha She didn't even know it was a game.
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  • None of my family except my sis & bro are my FB friends, although I'm sure my cousins have it. However, there are many people from DH's family that are on FB. It doesn't weird me out too much, but then again DH's family is "special". I'm more worried about what I might see on their profile's than what they'd see on mine!

    Recently I logged into my Myspace account which I really don't use anymore. I happened to look at my cousin's profile since I haven't seen him in over a year and got a huge surprise. I quickly recognized someone who had left a comment, it was his deadbeat Dad! The last time I saw my ex-uncle was when I was maybe 6 or 7. He up and left my aunt and disappeared with some woman. I still haven't told my family about this because I know my mom would call my aunt and I don't want to cause problems if my cousin wants to have a relationship with his biological Dad.

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  • I've got my mom, aunt, cousins, SIL, BIL.... it doesn't bother me about my mom. She basically knows everything I do anyway and like Jenni said, if you are posting stuff you don't want your mom to read, then you shouldn't post it.
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