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Vent regarding all this "help"
So MrShoe's grandmother wanted to come see Norah this week which is great. It started off with her just coming for the day. Then she was going to spend one night. She showed up here this morning and announced she was staying until Saturday. I almost fainted but she likes to clean so whatev...
She held Norah for a while so I could get some things done around the house that I hadn't had time to do. I fed the babe and went to rock her in the nursery. Before I knew what was happening, she had taken my child and basically kicked me out so I could go nap. Um, I'm not tired. And I do not need "help" rocking my daughter to sleep. I just gave birth to her and rocking her to sleep is one of the many things I looked forward to for 9 months. If you are here to "help" then go do a load of laundry. I had to get MrShoe to go in there and get N for me b/c I was so upset.
I used to think the girls on 3rd tri were being bitchy when they were talking about not having visitors for the first week but I am starting to understand where they are coming from. Please pray I make it to Saturday w/o losing my *** on her.
Re: Vent regarding all this "help"
wow, staying till Saturday is a really long time to invite yourself over for!!
A lot of people don't really know what to do with new moms, helpwise. Just be patient and try not to kill her!
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okay, having just been in your shoes a few months ago....
tell mrshoe he needs to be your advocate. "help" from others should involve cooking, laundry, dishes, cleaning, etc... so you can mother. if anyone tries to tell you otherwise, have him lay down the law. we had to do this at my house, but it was tenfold because we would have three and four people over at a time.
these precious few weeks are for you and her to get a feel for each other and get in your own groove. there will be plenty of time for others to hold / hug / love / spoil, but you can't get these early days and weeks back.
once word got out that it was this way or the highway at our house, we only had the essential peeps coming over and i don't think we had to do a load of laundry until the babes were six weeks old.
(((( hugs )))) to you.
ugh! that is super annoying.
when i call you to ask to come over, don't worry, it will be just to visit for a short while! no "helping" involved! but i would gladly fold some clothes in exchange of holding that cute little missy!!
ditto. My gma tried to pull that crap when she came to visit, and I told her very quickly that I was a grown woman, and if i was tired, I could nap when the kid was sleeping, I did not need to be told when to nap, just take her and say she needs to eat if she tries to do it again
My email address is..... I'm currently accepting applications for a nanny :-)
Please to be moving the fluck out of here with the previous happenings.
She's gone. Thank you, Jesus. And thanks for all the advice.
I was able to read it but didn't have time to reply until now. MrShoe was just as perturbed as I was but I didn't want to appear ungrateful so I wouldn't let him kick her out. I think she got the message after the first day when I was being uber selfish about the babe. She cleaned my whole house and did all of the laundry which really was very helpful. Not sure why it took almost 4 days but it's over with now...I'm very glad to have my house back.