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My Mom feels guilty...
Ok, so we're approaching 1 year of my Dad being gone.
My parents have long time friends (George grew up with my dad - and the couples had been friends for 30+ years). George's wife died a few months after my dad did, actually from a freakily similar disease to my dad's. They went through the same treatments, same hospitals...similar declines and deaths.
The guy visits my mom maybe once every 2 months and they have coffee for an hour or so. Just to catch up.
Before my mom's knee surgery, he told her he'd take her out when she was feeling up to it in the spring. Well...he's going to pick her up and take her to his friend's italian restaurant on Saturday night.
She is feeling guilty, that this may be tacky...she asked my sister and I if we minded.
My sister and I think it is great. They both need companionship, they've been through similar struggles and losses. They've been friends since my mom and dad met in 1973.
I told my mom that if something happened to my Jon, that his best friend would do the same thing for me.
What do you think?
(they're both in their 60s with grown children - if that matters)
TTC #1 13 cycles, CP 6/09, TTC #2 1 cycle
CDing, EP'd for 13 months for #1, BFing for #2
Pregnancy Hypertension - inductions at 39w, I grow big babies: DD was 9 pounds 1 ounce 22 inches, DS was 11 pounds even 22 inches - both vaginal deliveries
Re: My Mom feels guilty...
This. I think it's great!
This. I think both of them would take comfort in knowing that their spouse is dating someone that they already knew and loved.
I don't even know if it would ever turn into anything more than a friendship - but my sister and I just want our mom to be happy and to not feel lonely.
Its always nice to have a friend who's been through what you've been through.
Thanks Girls...I appreciate the reassurance.
TTC #1 13 cycles, CP 6/09, TTC #2 1 cycle
CDing, EP'd for 13 months for #1, BFing for #2
Pregnancy Hypertension - inductions at 39w, I grow big babies: DD was 9 pounds 1 ounce 22 inches, DS was 11 pounds even 22 inches - both vaginal deliveries
Ditto!
I think its awesome! I'm sure it will be hard for you mom if and when she decides she is ready for a relationship, but who better than someone your dad knew and cared for?
No one will ever be able to understand her pain and feelings like another person who has suffered a similar loss.
If this grows into something, thats great! If not, its still good. And its great that you and your sister are as loving and supportive as you are . . .
I think it's great for them! I would love to have someone who has basically gone through the same thing recently!
I think they should go have dinner...it's not like it's a date. They are longtime friends and have someone to talk to!
Tell mom to GO FOR IT and enjoy the friendship!
This! I think it's wonderful they have each to talk to and help heal and move forward.