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Husband refuses to have sex
without a condom. We don't want a baby this early in our marriage and he is very careful. But I take birth control which is more effective alone than condoms are, yet he still insists on using both. I understand where he is coming from but I just want to try it every once in awhile without one.
Re: Husband refuses to have sex
This sounds like some sort of hang up -- maybe he thinks he still can impregnate you and that's why he "needs" a condom -- or he somehow thinks sex is dirty. And so the reason for the condom.
His reason for using the condom is solely as an added BC backup, right? There aren't any other reasons?
Maybe he just needs a bit more information to feel comfortable - like researching BC online or talking to his PCP.
It is his body and he needs to be comfortable with sex, so let him take this at his own pace. (Again, this is assuming that he doesn't have any issues with sex, just BC.)
Has he ever had sex without a condom?
I was kind of like this when I took the pill... I kept being worried that somehow I would screw it up, not take it at the right time, ect. and so I was always scared not to have sex without a condom.
If you think this is the problem, maybe it would help if he went with you to the Dr. and heard from a medical professional that it is perfectly fine to only use BCP.
i know a lot of girls (and i do mean girls) who have gotten prego on the pill. my theory - they conveniently forgot to take their pill or someone messed it up and...uh oh...they're prego! i totally think they tricked their men into having a baby. regardless, have you or your husband observed similar situations? if so, maybe he has seen other women who were on the pill get pregnant and isn't so convinced about the effectiveness. if i didn't know these girls, i would would seriously question the effectiveness of the pill. and i certainly don't mean that all women who get prego on the pill are sneaky - just the few i know.