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Just out of curiosity--how far out was your bridal shower?
I'm trying to plan a bridal shower for my friend and the date is proving to be the most challenging first hurdle. I had wanted to do it early--early April (which at this point is almost out of the question now), the other MOH (we're co-MOHs) wants to do it mid-May for a June 26 wedding. Do you remember how far out your shower was, and which would you prefer as a guest that has to travel (everyone will have to travel except my co-MOH who is hosting). And, I don't know if it matters but everyone that we're inviting to the shower will also have to travel and get hotels for the wedding as well.
Re: Just out of curiosity--how far out was your bridal shower?
I had 2. One in NJ with my family that was in June (I think?) for my Nov 5 wedding. They didn't have much choice of a date. They wanted it to be a surprise, so they had to do it during a time I was visiting.
My 2nd was here in NC with DH's family at the end of August. My bridesmaids traveled from NJ for this shower and I think thats the only way I would travael for a shower. If it was a sister or someone close.
As a guest, I'd probably prefer the May date, just to give me more time to prepare a trip out of town.
no no. not ungrateful--just busy!! I think most of us totally understand that.
Hmmm, this is interesting though that most of you wouldn't travel OOT for a shower....makes me think this could be a bad idea. (Looking back at it, I guess that I too have been the only one to really have to travel OOT for almost every shower I've ever been to.) Grrr, i've been in about a bajillion bridal parties before but this is by far the most challenging yet. And my friend is so nice, I want people to go to celebrate with her!!
It's just that I'm going to have to travel OOT for the wedding too. So in order to save that vacation time I'd probably skip the shower. I wouldn't have the time or money to make both trips. But really, it depends on who it's for. I'd make the attempt if it was someone really close, or a sister.
for mine, we were in college
august wedding- they held a morning bridal shower and evening bachelorette in late april, all one event for the friends of mine who WERE coming from OOT. it was scheduled a few weekends before wrapping up our thesis projects and dealing with graduation
when I planned my best friends party we did a similar, all in one weekend event. (bridal shower friday evening bachelorette sat night)
Everyone traveled to it but her (she's in NJ). We sent out save the dates between 2-3 months in advance of the april event (we surprised her with a trip to NYC so this allowed everyone the opportunity 1. to save money and 2. get it on their calendars because honestly, it's not a party without a big crowd IMO) her wedding was over memorial day weekend in May. we had a great turnout.
Mine was really early - July for a December wedding. But, I was in Louisiana, while the wedding - and all my friends - were in NC. So, when I went home for my big planning trip, they had a shower for me, too. My OOT bridesmaids did not travel for it, and I did not expect them to.
I've only had a couple of close friends get married OOT. For one, I was a BM, so she had her shower hostesses send me an invite out of courtesy, but I didn't go and she knew I wouldn't be able to. For the other, I was not in the wedding and so she didn't invite me to the shower.
Like someone said, if I could drive to the shower location in 5-6 hours and I had a place to stay with a friend or something I'd probably go. But, finances and vacation time would be bigger factors if I had to fly somewhere and I'd be likely to skip the shower in favor of the wedding.
My bridal shower was in late December or early January (is it bad that I can't remember?) and my wedding was in late February.
I was still living in S. FL at that time and most of my family lives in S. / Central FL, so the most anyone had to travel was an hour and a half.
I'm not sure what I would do in your situation... I think I'd actually rather travel at times that were not all that close together. In my work situation, it would be easier for me to take off a day or two one month and then wait another two to three months and do it again... if I take too much time off in a 2 month period I get crap for it. I think that's different for everyone.
Unfortunately, when travelling is involved in weddings and showers, you just sort of have to roll with the punches. If someone can make it, great... if not, that's ok too.
GL!
I had three different showers in three different states, so they were a bit spread out. I do not remember the exact details. The last one was only a couple of weeks before the wedding, but the others were probably 1-2 months out, but one of them could have been 3 month before.
I think April would be fine as long as you can give the guests enough notice.