If sex hurts...

skaplan000 · March 2010

do you force yourself to do it for your DH? My uterus is tilted and I have vaginismus (sp?)

Violet_McPurpleson · March 2010

You should never force yourself to have sex if you don't want to. However you should be working towards a solution so that you can work through this and enjoy it.

LemonLover33 · March 2010

Sex should never hurt. And I KNOW your DH would not like it if he knew it hurt you. I agree with the pp. You need to work towards sex not hurting.

mandapanda18 · March 2010

I have been dealing with an pain during intercourse for almost a year. It came on suddenly, and the tests that my ob has performed have not shown anything terribly abnormal, so I feel your pain (literally). I have been told to try different positions, use lube, was given a cream to use for 5 nights, nothing has worked. My next step is to have a full laporscopy and dnc. Good luck, I hope your's dosen't come to this, but as the other posters have mentioned, sex is not supposed to be painful and you should be trying to fix it rather than force through the pain, your DH will understand.

SoldiersGreenBean · March 2010

mandapanda18:
I have been dealing with an pain during intercourse for almost a year. It came on suddenly, and the tests that my ob has performed have not shown anything terribly abnormal, so I feel your pain (literally). I have been told to try different positions, use lube, was given a cream to use for 5 nights, nothing has worked. My next step is to have a full laporscopy and dnc. Good luck, I hope your's dosen't come to this, but as the other posters have mentioned, sex is not supposed to be painful and you should be trying to fix it rather than force through the pain, your DH will understand.

Why not ask about physical therapy before jumping in to surgery? It's less invasive. From experience, it also works.

OP, if you are not telling your DH that it hurts, or he's pressuring you to have sex anyways, it's not healthy. You need to speak to your doc.

mandapanda18 · March 2010

Physical therapy? out of the 3 ob's I've seen 2 told me the pain was in my head and the 3rd is still trying to figure things out, would you mind PM'in gme more details about this?

TIA

Smileyt8 · March 2010

Sex hurts a lot for me.. all the time.. no matter how much or how little we do it... but I always just suck it up and am sore for a few hours afterwards..

zaz123 · March 2010

Sex shouldn't hurt! Please check out vaginismus.com. I've recommended it a few times on here because I really don't feel painful sex is something that anyone should have to put up with plus, their program works! Best of luck.

cavewomanf16 · March 2010

Another vote for PT...6 months for me last year and it worked (and me using the vaginsimus.com dilators at home between appointments). Most of the doctors I went to told me it was in my head too, most of them telling me to have a glass of wine beforehand. I finally went to a urogynecologist, and what do you know, I actually had a mild case of vulvar vestibulitis and it wasn't all in my head. The PT I went to had experience with pelvic floor issues, so you will want to look for that.

cavewomanf16 · March 2010

I just saw that this was on Dr. Oz last week - it shows how biofeedback works, which is part of the treatment you go through with a PT.

http://www.doctoroz.com/videos/vaginal-panic-attacks

jessg816 · March 2010

I agree with everyone here, sex should NOT hurt. I was dealing with this for a year as well. I saw 7 doctors and only 1 was able to help me. I was told in was in my head too. I finally received lidocane shots to numb the area that hurt. That seems to be helping me so far. I get occasional pain, but it's nothing like before.

Mellhoney · April 2010

my uterus is tilted as well, although i do not have vaginismus, i do have something else (dang...can't remember the name) regarding the bone lower and interferring. My gyno was able to give me advice on different positions that worked with the way my body is. It helped minimize the pain. Maybe yours can do the same?

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