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Thought some could appreciate this
Dear Prudence,
I recently received a "save the date" card for the wedding of someone I don't know. The bride is the daughter of the doctor who has an office next door to the law office where I work. Trust me, I'm as confused as you are. Apparently, Dr. Father of the Bride asked my boss for my address and the address of my co-worker. I barely know this man. We sometimes chit-chat about the weather in the elevator. I didn't even know he had a daughter! I know I can't ask, "Why on earth are you inviting me to your daughter's wedding?" But I hope you can help me with this question: Do I have to get them a gift? Half of me says that if I'm invited, I am obligated to. But I'm living paycheck to paycheck. Would a nice card with my best wishes suffice?
?RSVPut Out
Dear RSVP,
Maybe we really do need a health care overhaul if our country's doctors are now scrounging around their office buildings' directories in order to come up with people who might contribute to their kids' dowry. Perhaps this doctor finds your observations about the weather so profound he wants you to share them during the wedding toasts. Perhaps he sees the wedding as an avant-garde piece of performance art composed of confused strangers. Perhaps he's out of his flaming gourd. But you have incurred no obligations to this man or the mystery bride. Toss the "save the date" note, and when the actual wedding invitation comes, although you may be tempted to respond expressing your bafflement, simply give them your regrets.
?Prudie
Re: Thought some could appreciate this
How random!
I don't think I'd even feel bad about not sending a gift, and/or not going to the wedding! But I definitely wouldn't be sending a gift.....
Sounds like someone just has an extra seat to fill!
DH and I had that wedding for his cousin earlier in the month, we don't know this cousin at all. I believe they came to our wedding, but not the reception. Anyways we didn't go and haven't sent a card yet either and really I don't feel all that bad about it.