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Scared and confused
So, my hubby and I have been married for about seven mos. now and well....the sex is good...sometimes scarce because of our work schedule. He works around sometimes three in the morning until 3pm, sometimes much crazy hours than that. My schedule is the graveyard shift for six nights or nine nights. But long story short, Im not for sure if we could have a baby? I mean we had a lot of sex but no baby. And I would think that something would occur now. IDK, he said im stressing at times and always thinking about a baby, maybe thats the reason why it didn't happen yet. We know a few more young couples that just got married and two mos later, they're preggos. He already went to the doctor about his .....well.....and the doctor said that he's fine. So I went to mine too and same result?? IDK what's up but really scared?
Re: Scared and confused
You've only been married for 7 months and you're working all the time with these crazy hours- are you sure you want to have a baby right now?
Sometimes it takes people a while to get pregnant. In order to get pregnant, you have to have sex while you're ovulating. If you are extremely stressed out then you may not be ovulating at all. Are you having a regular period? You also start your post by saying that your sex life is scarce, but then later say you have sex a lot. Which is it?
I would recommend that you read the book Taking Charge of your Fertility. It really teaches you about how your body works and IMO makes it very easy to understand how you get pregnant and could help you figure out some red flags if you're having trouble.
Thanks for the book tip! In any rate, I've always wanted to have a baby. I meant to say that a few mos in the marriage we had sex a lot but after our work schedule changed, its scare at times.
He went to the dr. and he just looked at him and said he was fine? What kind of dr. did he go to?
How old are you?
Your post is a little confusing - are you TTC or are you trying to use BCP correctly?
Sounds like you are both working a lot and don't get to spend time together. You should probably wait until you are both emotionally and financially ready to have kids and that might be another year or more for you.
Don't be in such a rush. Get some "legs" on your marriage and in a couple of years, then start to think about having a family.
Don't buckle into peer pressure. Because your friends are having kids doesn't mean you should be pressured into doing so. GL.
Start tracking your periods and charting. Check our fertilityfriend.com. You might just not have been having sex at the time you were ovulating.