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Invitation tackiness?
So we just got an invite to the 1st birthday party for the daughter of our friends (they are the first set of friends in our circle to have a child)... but this is what was paper clipped to the invite:
"Our daughter is fortunate enough to have a house overflowing with toys and drawers bursting with clothes. Therefore we respectfully request that for her first birthday, any generosity shown towards her as a birthday gift be in the form of a contribution towards her college education. You can never start saving too early! Thank you ad we look forward to celebrating with you!"
Now we werent going to be able to go to the party because we are on vacation the week of the party... but jeez $$$ fishing? Really? Its a fist birthday, and while I like to buys clothes and toys for little kids (fills my mommy needs), I would normally only spend $25-$30. But to just give a savings bond for that amount.... i feel cheap!
What do you ladies think?
Re: Invitation tackiness?
yeah, I would never do that... super tacky IMO.
Yes I would never ask or assume people will bring gifts for my child.
My friends kids have tons of toys and crap. Last year her and her son thought it would be cool to ask his guests to come and celebrate but bring dog food so they could donate it to local shelters since he loves dogs so much. It worked out very well.
Why does there need to be an alternative given at all? Why not just say, "Our child is fortunate to have plenty of toys. All we request is the pleasure of your company"
I think donating dog food is a neat idea, it still creates the assumption that people need to spend money to join in the party.
wow, talk about tacky.
i would totally buy the loudest most annoying toy ever and give that as a gift- but that's just me lol
we've talked about michael's big 1st b-day party coming up and we are agreed that we will note on the invites: The only gift we request is the gift of your presence to celebrate Michaels special day!
My sister started doing this for my nephew. Two years ago she asked everyone to bring a book to donate and then last year she did the dog food thing. They took a picture of Z with all the food before it was donated and it was amazing how much was collected.
m/c 1/2/08 and 3/12/08
Eve Amelia- Born 2/24/09. 6lb 9.9oz
Natalie Ruth - Born 6/13/11 7lb 6.6oz
Okay - So now that Ive gotten allof your agreement that its pretty tacky... What should I do for a gift?
I can't go to the party because Ill be on vacation, but these are good friends of ours. Do I:
1: Since I'm not going, give nothing?
2: Send a card and no gift?
3: Send a card and savings bond? (no cash - I dont want parents to spend it)
If option 3, how much money do I put in as a gift for the husband and I?
a. $25
b. $50