Sex & Romance
KatieBride06
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if you're on meds that kill sex drive ...
i'm on NuvaRing and Zoloft for anxiety management. i do remove the ring during sex though. i've just had that feeling like i want DH to just hurry up and do his thing, because i'm not enjoying it. problems have been ...
dryness (i've always needed lube though, but it seems very dry lately)
low sex drive
soreness during sex (could be the dryness)
trouble climaxing & getting into it during foreplay
i haven't called for a Dr's appointment yet, but i'm wondering if there are things i should be trying differently first. i'll hopefully go of BC later this year anyways. i may try getting off Zoloft too, but scared to anxiety will come back. i haven't tried any other meds yet b/c i do so well on the Zoloft.
Re: if you're on meds that kill sex drive ...
I'm on NuvaRing as well and was on antidepressants for 5-6 years (I was just recently taken off). I've had similar issues. You may be able to find an all natural, holistic doctor to give you supplements that will replace your Zoloft. It sounds crazy, I know, but that's what happened with mine. It has helped a lot. However, if you can't and your Zoloft is working, you may consider just waiting a little while. I know it's super frustrating to not be able to fully enjoy sex, but I think your mental health is really important, too.
Just curious, why do you take the NuvaRing out for sex?
i take it out b/c sex is already uncomfortable sometimes and i just figure that probably helps a little. it feels better w/o having it in.
BFP on Jan. 18; EDD Oct. 1
Antianxiety & antidepression meds are notorious for causing low sex drive. I'm a Physician Assistant student and we often prescribe these with warnings that there could be an issue. My advice is definitely to consult your physician and not to try an alternatie- even a natural one- without consulting them (natural meds can have drug interactions). GL!
Please don't take this the wrong way, but are you sure you are into the sex? Because if your mind set is "just hurry up and do his thing" then of course you are not going to enjoy it.
I really think this is an issue of mind over matter. Even if you say this is just because you can't get into it, I'd be willing to bet you are subconscienceously preparing yourself for the worse.
First thing I would do is determine if what I said COULD be true. You might want to ask your doctor about a cream called Estrace. It helps with vaginally dryness. I would also suggest keeping an open mind in changing around your BC or anti depressant medicine.
I've had issues with this on various BCP's. The anti-depressants could definitely be a factor, but my opinion is that Nuvaring is crap. Why are you taking it out? You decrease it's effectiveness when you remove it.
I would switch to something oral and see if you still need the anti-depressant medication (or if you could do better with a lower dose). Sometimes that does the trick!
As for the dryness, use lube if you need it. I find I'm far less dry when I get oral compared to just manual stimulation. Think about things that turn you on (like Gerard Butler, for example....rwar!) and try watching some sexy movies. GL!
Yep, I know that from personal experience. I'm on a Prozac generic, and it's all but killed my sex-drive. The BC-pill did a little bit, but once I added the Prozac, it all but died.