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Poll: "I love you" and your ILs

Do you tell your ILs that you love them? I tell one side of DH's family (MIL, step-FIL, and SIL) that I love them in person, on the phone, and in emails / cards. And they reciprocate the sentiment. The other side of DH's family - no way. The best I can do is sign emails / cards "Love, Melissa." I am not sure which is more normal - what do you do?
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Re: Poll: "I love you" and your ILs

  • I still tell ex-MIL and her sisters and daughters that...I go to church with them or when I see them but not ex-FIL.

    I guess it just depends on the connection with them...I still tell and ex-bf's sister that I love her but she is one of my very good friends.

  • hellllll no. i try not to lie. :P
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    hellllll no. i try not to lie. :P

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  • i tell DH's parents i love them same for his little sis. i'll say the same for a lot of his extended family that I'm close to.i have to admit its kinda awkward if i say it to FIL. i do love him, but we're really not that close... not like I am with the rest of his family.

    oddly, i don't recall ever having said it to BIL & his wife... i've written it on cards and such but i can't recall ever having said it to them. 

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  • No, I don't think I've ever told them that.

    I don't say I Love You very much, anyway.  My family is the type that says it all the time, every time you hang up the phone.  I think it starts to lose its meaning if you say it so lightly.

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  • LOL, I'm still laughing over your response Jezca!

    And I say it back in person when my MIL says it first. Everyone else, no.

    DH does say it to my family, though. He's known my siblings since before they were teenagers, and we spend a lot of time with my parents, so they really are his family.

  • I like my MIL and FIL very much.  But the word love still feels weird to me.

    Just like it feels too weird to call them "mom and dad"

  • I have told the IL's a few times but have felt weird about it. But DH will NOT tell my parents and it kind of bothers me. He thinks its weird when my mom tell him.
  • I don't tell them that I love them because I don't.
  • imageJezcaM:
    hellllll no. i try not to lie. :P

    This is why I don't say it to the other ILs. I like to tell the truth.

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  • I love my MIL.  I say it to her.  She sometimes says it back.  I know she loves me, she just is a tough one to crack.

    My mom says it to my DH and he'll say it back, but he'll never volunteer it first.

    I'm glad I'm not the only one that has thought about this before!

  • Bah.  Saying it to her would be giving her even more license to take over my home.  Can't do it.  I care for them...I know deep down she is a nice lady...

    Besides...I barely say "I love you" to my OWN parent(s)...and vice versa!

    I can say it to my kids, tho'...and my DH...at the drop of a hat! 

  • Nope.  Like pp, the best I can do is sign a card "Love,...".
  • I tell my ILs I love them, and they do the same.  I am absolutely blessed with wonderful inlaws. I also call them Mom and Dad.
  • Yes, especially MIL because I do love her. The others (FIL, SIL, etc.) I have but I don't say it every time we talk or anything.  I'm blessed with in laws that really feel like my own family.
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  • No.  But Dh's grandmother on his dad's side says it everytime I talk to her.  So I just say it because she says it first.  DH says she never even says it to him but that side of the family has been known to have a preference for girls over boys. 
  • I tell them after they tell us and it's normally "We love y'all" not just me.
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  • No.  I can't call them mom and dad either.  I can barely call them by their first names.  I still want to call them Mr. and Mrs.

    I think MIL may say it sometimes to 'test me' and see if I'll say it back.  Then, I'll recipocate - because I do love them... it just doesn't feel natural to say.

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