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BFF and the wedding
Ok, so April is my bff...we have been bff's since 8th grade! She lived with me for a while and then moved in with Matt. They are getting married in August. She got the email yesterday and called me today and told me that she probably wont be coming 
Now, I totally understand that she is planning a wedding as well...but, he daddy gave her $10,000...I probably wont be getting ***! Not to mention someone else bought her dress and will probably be helping out as well. Really, I am giving you 13 months notice, you are my BEST friend and you are just gonna throw in the towel and say that you aren't gonna come??
Then, I was like ok, well, if I can find a way for you to go are you willing to leave Matt and come? She was like well, I really don't want to...ARE YOU F*CKING KIDDING ME???????? I am basically offering you a free vacay (if I can pull it off) and you still wont come! That kind of really pisses me off...I just feel like I value our friendship so much more than she does and it hurts. I know that she doesn't make a lot of money but Matt makes a lot! Hmm, I wonder if any of this is his doing??? If she was getting married in freakin Egypt I would find a way to be there!
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Yeah, I agree with Darah, too. I'm soooo sorry that she's being a PITA about it. Your wedding is just as important as hers! :::HUGS!!!!!!!:::
This. I'm sorry.
That's really strange. Maybe there's some personal stuff going on that she hasn't told you about yet? There's a lot of time between now and your wedding that she can be saving. Plus, if she's getting married in August her wedding will have been over for 8 months by the time yours rolls around! Tell her to use some of the wedding she'll get from wedding presents to go
I would give it a few days and then have a heart to heart with her and tell her that it hurts you that she doesn't seem to value your friendship. Let her know it's important for you to have her at your wedding. Hopefully she'll come around.
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I don't think that there is anything extra going on, thats just how she is. It is pretty much a PITA to try and get her to do anything! I am totally gonna have a heart to heart with her. Depending on how many cabins are booked we will be getting credits...Paul is more than willing to let her use those but here is my deal...If she isn't even going to TRY to get there and she is throwing in the towel now then why in the hell and I going to bend over backward to try and get her there?? AND I am NOT paying for Matt!!!!!!
Am I asking too much? If this was any of you and your best friend was me and I offered to get YOU there but couldn't pay for your husband would you still go?
You aren't asking for too much, but does she have a passport? Do you need one to go to Jamica? Maybe she has to get one of those, and it's a headache...but she's got a year to plan for it, too. Maybe she only sees whats in front of her...sometimes people can only see the worst option available...and don't want to look regardless, stubborn and hard-headed sound like her? Maybe she's refusing to spend any additional money due to her upcoming wedding, but she's got money from daddy and future hubby...so I don't know what's going on.
If you were my best friend, I'd be there for your wedding...its one of those events that you don't pass up. Have the heart to heart with her, talk it out, see what's going on with her, and let her know how much this would mean to you if she came to your wedding. You'll feel better if you do it.
OMG I am soooo sorry...that is soo terrible!
oh Brit, i'm sorry! it is so hard when you are planning something so wonderful and exciting and everyone doesn't share your enthusiasm. definitely have a talk with her. it doesn't seem like she had very long to think about it. hopefully after your talk, she will come around, and once her wedding has passed she can start thinking about other things again! don't give up on her yet.
oh, and its so generous and sweet that Paul agrees to give all your credits to her so she can come! what a sweetheart!
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Thanks girls! Now there is another one saying that she isn't coming either!
Kendra you are too funny
and I totally agree...the only ppl I want there without a doubt (and I know that they are all coming) are my mom, grandparents, his parents and grandparents...I guess everyone else is just bonus!