Does DH pressure you for anal sex?

diddygrl · March 2010

A friend of mine and I were having a conversation and she mentioned that her husband keeps pressuring her to do it and she just refuses. I am just curous to see how many women are feeling the pressure as well.

mininickle · March 2010

I can't say I know how she feels but I CAN say that is a huge red flag. A woman should NEVER feel pressured by her husband to do anything sexually...that just shows his lack of respect for her and her feelings. After "asking" once he should have dropped it after she said she wasn't comfortable with it. IMO, she should get help or possibly even get out...if he is fine with pressuring his wife for something like this, what else doesn't he respect her on?! Eeesh! Some men! I tell ya!

sawwasmif · March 2010

I had exbfs who pressured me for it and never got it from me. DH didn't pressure me at all. He expressed curiosity in a way that got me curious - not a coercive way, either. So we researched it, tried it, and it's now on the menu.

I hate hate hate people who pressure their partner for things. If it's not an equal decision it's not right.

diddygrl · March 2010

It has to be a joint agreement otherwise if the woman is uncomfortable it just makes it harder to even get in, let alone enjoy. I don't think that we should feel pressured to do anything. If I say no that's what I mean. Don't get me wrong I am willing to compromise but if I just don't want to, then that's what it is.

Derniermot · March 2010

nope

but

dh thinks buttsecks is gross

candaceleigh21 · March 2010

I have never felt "pressured" but whenever he asks to try it I just tell him the following: "I will let you do it if I can do it to you!!" this usually makes him frown and clinch his buttcheeks simultaneously!! The has been the best way so far to get out of it!!

riderpunk · March 2010

Never felt pressured about anything with DH. Both of us can talk about what we like to try with one another. DH for a while did suggest anal and how we should try it. Discussed it and broke down in the end.

diddygrl · March 2010

candaceleigh21:
I have never felt "pressured" but whenever he asks to try it I just tell him the following: "I will let you do it if I can do it to you!!" this usually makes him frown and clinch his buttcheeks simultaneously!! The has been the best way so far to get out of it!!

tooooo funny gonna pass this onto my friend

Amy_Justin · March 2010

Nope, my FI doesn't pressure me into anything. I agree with a PP that the fact that he's pushing her into sexual acts is a huge red flag.

EngineerAaron · March 2010

DH's should not be pressuring anyone for the anus sex. Decent person fail.

eyelovemascara · March 2010

I think its okay if DH is intrigued or turned on by anal...but never okay to pressure her into something she doesn't want to do.

My DH wanted to try it and I completely refuse, so he accepts it although I'm sure he will never be opposed to it.

LemonLover33 · March 2010

Derniermot:
nope

but
dh thinks buttsecks is gross

I wish I had your DH.... LOL he asks for it on the rare occasion but I am not that into it.

jonesdouglas · March 2010

My H refuses to have anal sex which is perfect because so do I. Also, he would never pressure me to do anything I didn't want to do.

Lissa832 · March 2010

candaceleigh21:
I have never felt "pressured" but whenever he asks to try it I just tell him the following: "I will let you do it if I can do it to you!!" this usually makes him frown and clinch his buttcheeks simultaneously!! The has been the best way so far to get out of it!!

This is what I told DH.

2carbuffs · March 2010

No b/c he cares whether I'm getting pleasure or not. How old is your friend & her H?

diddygrl · March 2010

2carbuffs:
No b/c he cares whether I'm getting pleasure or not. How old is your friend & her H?

She is 26 and he is alost 40 so there u go!!

NaturalBeauty · March 2010

I've never had a guy ask for that EVER. My DH has no desire, he thinks it is dirty and I have no desire.

jdbmjm · March 2010

H has never mentioned it. But I think he knows that it not ok with me. And he has never tried to pressure me for anything in bed. He might mention and idea, but never force the issue. That would really worry me and make me feel like he's not respecting me.

lifeguard · March 2010

You could say just once and never again. Get all prepared and in full control to prevent pain or damage.

His curiosty will be satisfied.

laddiebug · March 2010

I, too, pull the "if you let me do it to you" line. It gets a funny reaction. It usually only gets brought up in jest in the first place.

BigTrev · April 2010

My wife will never get pressure. No desire to head down the ole dirty road here.

lifeguard · April 2010

Some people just want attention I guess and worry about this stuff?

If you prepare and if DH is careful. It can be pain free but feels rather odd. It does tend to give DH's a quick "O" if you squeeze him and moan a little.

It's not an unpleasant,painful,damaging ordeal unless you want it to be.

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