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Second child baby shower?

I'm just curious what you girls think of this. My MIL is throwing my SIL (DH's sister) a baby shower for her second daughter that is due in May. Ok, I'm all for giving another shower if the kids are like 10 years apart and/or a different sexes, but my SIL has a daughter that will only be 4 when her little sister is born...I kinda think it's tacky to ask people for more gifts only 4 years later from the first kid. What's your input?
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Re: Second child baby shower?

  • Is it a small thing like at someone's house or a big restaurant kinda affair? Personally, I think something small with immediate family who would buy gifts anyways is okay but something big, especially in this economy, is swaying towards the ridiculous side. How does your SIL feel? I'd imagine she isn't the one who wants a second shower (especially b/c she probably has a ton of stuff left from the 1st daughter-- and probably stuff that she never used at all).
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  • Eeh, I'm personally not a fan of it in these circumstances. How big is it going to be?
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  • I always thought second baby showers were a no-no?
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  • If it's just an excuse to have a get together and food, cake, etc...then great.  But I'd be annoyed if I were expected to bring an elaborate gift - or if there were a registry.

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  • I'm probably in the minority, but I really don't see the big deal. While I certainly would not expect a shower in the above circumstances, nor ask for it, I wouldn't mind it. But it's kinda common to bring presents for a new baby, whether you see the mom before or after the baby is born, in our family/circle of friends, so I feel like it'd just be a fun way to celebrate a new baby and eat some yummy food/cake.
  • I think it's fine, as long as the mom-to-be is not piggish about a registry.  Having a lower key event, (sometimes these are called a "sprinkle") seems fine if the family wants to celebrate each new baby.
  • It's going to be an affair of around 50 people at a restaurant my MIL picked and I'm assuming she wants people to bring gifts being she is spending all this money on it. Of course I know you only give what you can afford, but I still kinda feel it's tacky to even ask! =/ My SIL has no clue she is even getting one, so she has minimal on a registry (she only registered incase she thought people would ask if she wanted anything)...I think that's tacky as well! LOL I guess that's just me. To each their own...

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