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~Rock~
Hey I am so sorry about your Granddad. My Granddad actually lives at his home still (we have 24 hr care) but when he enters into a rehab which is a couple of times a year we have problems. Is your Granddad super mobile? When we are at a rehab we always have an alarm on my Granddad. It can be a pain in the neck for the nurses because it literally goes off EVERY TIME he tries to get out of his chair or bed on his own, but at least we know he is safe. Whenever my Granddad is in a rehab he always has a really hard time remembering where he is, and often thinks he is somewhere else...so he tries to leave. The alarm has really helped us out. Maybe they could give your Granddad something similar?
Re: ~Rock~
Hey C, I knew I'd be hearing from you about this
He is definitely super mobile--he walked around on his own for six hours on Wednesday without falling or doing any harm to himself! He's in incredibly great shape given his 90 years, and this is the first time we've had any real trouble with confusion/dementia. The home didn't put a Wander Guard bracelet on him because he had never tried to leave before and has been perfectly lucid until now. That said, it's unfathomable to me that he got past two desks and two sets of doors without anyone stopping him, as they know he's not supposed to go out on his own and we always sign him out with a family member.
Anyway, right now he's on a secure floor in the hospital getting evaluated by doctors who will determine whether he's safe with just an alarm system or whether he needs to be in a more secure (i.e. locked) facility. That could take a week or more
As much as I'm appalled by the people at his currently facility right now, I'm somewhat leaning towards keeping him there if he can be kept safe because changing his environment again isn't going to be great for him either.
That really is appalling. I have dealt with several situations both at rehab/nursing homes and hospitals where I felt helpless. I have found that at several of the rehabs the staff there are careless. My granddad has been given the wrong medications several times. One time he fell out of bed trying to get to the bathroom (this was before we had an alarm on him) and was there for hours. Dealing with these situations is just so stressful.
I know what you mean about not wanting to move him to a new facility. It always takes a while for my Granddad to adjust to a new place, and when/if he needs to be moved there is great confusion. My Granddad suffers from sundowning whenever he is out of his own house, and it can get pretty bad. I hope your Granddad's present home can come up with some acceptable safety precautions so you and your family won't have to worry so much.
Sundowning is the worst. I watched my FIL go through it, and while he could be difficult even at the best of times, he was downright nasty when he was sundowning.
I'm so sorry your grandfather was on the floor for so long! I agree, it's just appalling that things like that can happen, and the guilt you feel when you finally learn about it is so painful. We have a lot of family around to check in on my grandfather on pretty much a daily basis, which is good, but only a couple of us get really involved in making sure he's taken care of and, yes, it's stressful sometimes.
Anyway, I'm hoping for the best and will give you an update when things settle down. The good news is that the psychiatrist who evaluated him today thinks he's in pretty good shape, but they want to fiddle with his meds a little to get things right while he's in the safe environment of the dementia ward of the hospital. The hospital he's at now has a great, shiny, new dementia ward and the staff seems excellent so far.