Fashion & Beauty
Ms.Lulu.
member
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
What to wear to an Indian wedding? UPDATE
My husband and I are attending our friends wedding in a couple weeks and I am at a loss as to what to wear! It is an Indian wedding, our first Indian wedding and I just don't know what is appropriate or not!
Has anyone attended an Indian wedding? If so I would love some help! the only thing I know is that I can't wear red because the bride wears red.
TIA
Re: What to wear to an Indian wedding? UPDATE
Indian weddings are usually pretty elaborate. Most of the women will be in heavily embellished saris & lenghas with lots of gold jewelry. In other words, go big! :-) Your fanciest dress and coordinating jewelry should be fine.
You didn't specify which religion the ceremony will follow, but if it is one where your head must be covered in the temple, they will usually have small headscarves available for you.
This is the dress I am thinking about wearing but I am just not sure about it, is it too close to the color red? What do you think overall of the dress for a wedding?
The religion is Sikh.
The dress isn't really short on me but it is above the knee, thank you for the tip!
Make sure you accessorize that dress well. If not, you'll likely feel underdressed. I used to cater and there were many indian weddings that I served. The dresses were very colorful (as the one you picked is), but typically more conservative (long with sleeves etc.). I always looked forward to the Indian weddings. The women were dressed so beautifully and the parties looked fun to boot.
Enjoy!
Thank you for the tips! I was thinking of accesorizing with some gold jewelry and some gold strappy heels.
What is the material? I wonder if it's too casual.
Consider joining the bone marrow registry
Hello! So glad you asked! I'm Indian so I can help you out. To be honest, I wouldn't wear that dress in the Sikh temple. Typically they sit on the ground (I have seen this even for weddings), so you would be uncomfortable in a short dress, and your legs would end up hanging out, you'd be constantly trying to pull your skirt down over your legs, and NOBODY has bare legs in a Sikh temple. The sleeveless is probably ok, but they will require you to cover your head in the temple. I'd take a wrap with you. Also, I agree with pp that the dress is a bit casual. In the Sikh tradition, the ladies that are close to the bride wear varying shades of pinks, including the color of your dress. I am not sure if it is okay for guests to wear it. The bride will most likely be wearing that color or the traditional RED. So in sum, I would wear something more conservative/covered to the temple wedding (no bare legs, trust me, you will feel uncomfortable). At the same time, it can be a fancier dress since everyone will be very decked out. Just our Indian clothes are so elaborate with embroidery, beadwork, gold, irridescence, and tons of jewelry.
For the reception, you have some more leeway, since obviously you won't be sitting on the ground. However, I would still not recommend wearing a dress above the knee, because you may feel self-conscious, again, because Indian outfits all cover the legs completely. Yes, some of our clothes bare our midriffs and it is popular for young girls to go around flaunting their midriffs in tiny tops, but they will always have a floor-length skirt to go with it. Bare shoulders are fine. I had a friend that came to my engagement party in a restaurant, and asked about the dress, and I told her that everyone will be wearing long dresses so she might feel uncomfortable (she has GREAT legs and always wears short dresses), and she said, well I am me, and went ahead with the short dress. As soon as she got there she was sooo embarrassed and came and told me about her short dress and kept her jacket on! (which was longer than the dress). If you are young, knee-length, or if a little older, just past the knee-length dress would be fine. At my wedding reception I had a couple girlfriends (in their 20s) wear knee-length dresses, and there was an older lady my mom's age (mid 50s) who wore a calf-length dress. Another one of my girlfriends chose to wear a very dark burgandy, sparkly, long gown with slits up the knees, she blended in a lot better, but they all seemed fine. Just place yourself in the situation and think about what you will feel comfortable in. You want to enjoy yourself, not be worried about your hemline!
Again, I would wear something fancier/formal, with more bling, big earrings, necklace, bangles/bracelets, do full makeup, etc.
Have fun!
I am not 100% sure of the material...I'll have to check when I get home but it isn't cotton or anything casual, I think the material makes the dress more "nicer" if that makes sense.
Thank you sooo much for this...ok so I will definitely NOT wear the dress I posted. I think it would just be easier to wear a sari, don't you think? I have a few indian friend I can talk to and maybe they can let me borrow one?
Quite honestly, it just all depends on what the crowd is like with regard to the length of the dress for a reception. I am Indian, generally don't wear much Indian clothing & have never been treated as an outcast for wearing above-the-knee dresses to parties and weddings. We had a number of non-Indian guests at our wedding, who wore dresses that were sleeveless, strapless, short, long, etc. and it was not a big deal to anyone.
I do agree with pp, however, that sitting down during the Sikh ceremony might be difficult in a dress like the one you posted.
Thank you. I think I am going to email the bride to see what she thinks and I am going to talk to a couple other friends who aren't Indian to see what they plan on wearing.
Thanks soo much ladies for your help!
UPDATE: I emailed the bride and she called me, I explained the dress I was planning on wearing and she said that was fine. She did offer to let me wear a sari so I might go that route, I think that would be more respectful and I think it would be fun to wear one!
Thanks ladies for all your help!
If you go the sari route, practice wearing it a couple times before the event.