So it's the age old question: how to let someone down easy....
I had a really nice professor last term who likes to imagine herself buddies with all her students. Since she knows I'm an employee of the school, she now has a connection to me outside of class (i.e. a way to keep in contact). She wants to meet up for coffee after work sometime.
Like I said, the woman's nice, but I have no interest in wanting to establish any kind of relationship with her. She's an older woman, unmarried, no kids, and is social for the sake of being social. I would feel kind of guilty saying no to going out for coffee, but I really don't want to do it. She wasn't that great of teacher and I just want to put that term behind me.
What do you think I should do?
Re: How to say no?
Ouch, that's a tough one. Is she hounding you about it/ asking repeatedly? Any chance if you ignore her, she'll forget and move on? If not, I would say you have two options:
#1 Just go once so she stops asking and hopefully she will see how little you two have in common and not be interested any more (or you will hit it off and have a work buddy).
#2 Kindly tell her that with all that's going on, you really don't make a lot of time for social activities, and the time you do have have to set aside for your existing friends. This obviously doesn't avoid being awkward, but being honest is always the way to go.
Thanks. I have a feeling I'm going to get sucked into at least one of these.
She mentioned it after our last class. Then she called me just now regarding a class issue and brought it up again. I'm hoping she'll forget about it...
I'd go this route:
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