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I'm having some anxiety
So we're going to NY this weekend for my Gma's memorial service. Part of me is excited to spend the weekend with my extended family and part of me is really nervous about the weirdness of it all.
She past almost 2 months ago and my mom and sisters decided to forgo the funeral and do a memorial later. I was a little uncomfortable with this decision but it really wasn't my choice. I wouldn't typically see her during the winter so it's almost like it didn't happen.
Additionally, my family has become quite dysfunctional over the past several years and most of them don't get along. I enjoy spending time with all of them but hate the tension and they all biitch about each other. When I was a kid, I thought I had the most normal family ever. Turns out they're just as crazy as everyone else's. Well, not as crazy as DH's.
I just wanted to get that out.
Re: I'm having some anxiety
::HUGS:: I"m sorry Jenni. I agree that it does sound a little odd.
Maybe they wanted to put it off because of all the bad weather and they wanted as many people as possible there to celebrate your grandmother's life?
Be strong this weekend. HOpefully if your family gets a little too overwelming you can sneak away for a little bit.
Aren't families the best??
That's how my dads family is. If you can see them individually or small clusters then it's ok, but if you get them all together you kind of expect the tension to just make the room explode. Weird. I've never understood it.
Sorry I can't be more help.
Honestly, I think they just couldn't deal with it at the time. My mom had been back and forth a lot (she's the only one who doesn't live there) and really wanted to get home and away from her sisters. My aunt was against doing anything at all because we have a tiny family and "no one will come, all of her friends are already dead". Hmmm, HELLO! What about the rest of us who need some sort of closure? I really don't care if I'm the only one there.
And she's wrong. Everyone loved my Gma and she touch many lives. Tons of my friends have been asking if we're having anything in Maryland. I received loads of cards and emails from my parent's friends telling me how much they loved her. One of my Mom's friends even drove to Rochester on a minute's notice to say good bye.
*HUGS*
I totally know how you feel on this one. I don't know if you saw my GBU when I got back, but my Grandma passed away the night before my wedding and I didn't find out until the night before the funeral, when I was still in Key West. Besides being upset that she had passed, I was mad that nobody told me in time to come back. After I calmed down though, I was kind of glad that I couldn't go because my Dad's family is the same way. Ever since Grandpa died 10 years ago the bickering and fighting began. I'm so sensitive to all of the tension and would hate to feel worse because of their sh*t.
Anyway, apparently it went better than expected, and even though two of my aunts still won't speak to each other, they all did their best that day. Hopefully your family can also manage to set aside the crazy for just one day.
Sorry for the post-hijack... it's only been a couple of weeks for me so I guess your post stirred some emotion.
This. Hope for the best for you