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Confessions/(ETA) Vents
I know we normally do these on Friday but can't remember if we did and have a few. Anyone want to join me?
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I'm somewhat judgmental of people and what they drive. For instance, this morning a bright red VW Beetle turned at an intersection with a well posted "No Turn on Red" sign. He pulled ahead of me and I thought "Really? Dude, you're driving a bright red freaking Bug." Yes.. he. Fairly big dude... looked like he didn't fit all that comfortably (or shouldn't.)
Then I saw his license plate: "1 HOT BUG" 
I said - out loud - "Buddy, for your sake, I really hope you're pulling into [the car dealership/service center a few doors up from my office building.]" Thank goodness he did.
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I am really struggling... one of my CWs is looking at getting a dog. Hurray!! How fun... she said "I'm going to have all these dog questions for you. LOL" Not a problem... considering how dead it is around here? Dog questions will no joke be the highlight of my day!
Except they're looking at smaller "mixed breeds." Like cocka-poos, shi-poos, etc. (They want a breed with poodles.) This kills me and is a HUGE pet peeve of mine. Just because you intentionally breed two different breeds doesn't make it a new breed. Your "new breed" is a mutt... just like mine. (Except Husky, German Shepherd, and Border Collie doesn't really make a cutsy sounding name.)
I TRY to not say anything but MAN... suddenly what seemed to be a relief from boredom and hellish work has turned into "I think I'm going to bite my tongue right the f off."
ETA: What also gets me is these "new breeds" are BREEDED, which I also have a really really tough time not commenting on, and fetch a pretty hefty price tag!! When there are just as loveable, trainable, perfect dogs available at the Humane Society (or other pet-adopting agencies) that will be euthanized when you could adopt for next to nothing!
Re: Confessions/(ETA) Vents
IDK, a Huskey GSD Border Collie could be the super cool breed of: Husman Sheplie. I think we're on to something.
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Confession: I'm nosy.
Not really a confession but more of a vent. I really want to go to my parent's house for Easter. My mom invited us awhile ago and then this past Sunday MIL just got deemed to host Easter too. The person who normally hosts it is almost 8 months pregnant and doesn't feel up to it this year. So MIL kind of volunteered, but really there was no choice. So now I guess we have to go to MIL's to help out and such. I've been trying to talk DH into going to my parents to eat and then going to MIL's afterwards.
I really just don't want to be around the same group of family members every.single.holiday. For once I would like a holiday meal that did NOT consist of heavy Polish food. I want to eat at my mom's where she will have an awesome tasting ham, with gravy, and all these other traditional American Easter foods.
I don't blame you at all. Is there a reason that just because your MIL volunteered, you'd HAVE to go? I'd pull the "We've spent the last 6 Easters with your family... it'd be good for David to experience one with his other grandparents" card. LOL
Although we got railroaded into going to my family as well as Greg's.
Apparently at our Open House, MIL and my mom talked about their Easter plans and conveniently spaced them out accordingly... so MIL's is at noon (meaning we'll eat at 1:30), and my mom decided she was going to have something at FIVE. (Now that's not a big deal to most, except it's like an hour from our house on a Sunday evening. The night we try to get to bed NO LATER than 9 because Greg's up at 1:45 am for work.)
I'm going to try again. He probably won't budge on it though, mainly because he'll get *** from her and the rest of the family. They can be weird about things like this. I did say "fine, you go to your mom's, David and I will meet you there later." I don't think he liked that answer because the phone went dead silent
It also doesn't help that I'm getting home around 9 pm every night, and he is school on Tuesday and Wednesday. We barely see each other and the last thing I want to do is fight. I know it sounds like I'm backing down, yet again, to my MIL but really, I'm just trying to make DH's life easier with her. SHe is always complaining to him about one thing or another and I really don't want to add another complaining item to her ever growing list.
This is why I hate holiday get togethers. Not because I don't want to see family but it's such an obligation and my family is very difficult. They expect us there all the time. Thank goodness we don't have a relationship with Derick's family really or we'd be pulled in so many different directions. Although my confession is sometimes we secretly play the "we have to go to Derick's (insert family member here) for a little bit" so we aren't caught at my parents forever.
My mom is overly understanding of the issue. She has said from the beginning that she will never guilt trip us into coming over and she knows how difficult MIL can be. I just hate that she has to be so understanding. My mom is really a saint and I just hate that I'm doing this to her.
NOrmally my mom does holidays just on a different day (except for Easter) and I wish just once that we can just do it our way.
Oh, and BIL insinuated that I should have Easter this year. Yeah, I'm going to host a gathering of 30+ people when I'm working 65+ hours and have a deadline in less than 2 weeks. I will never host Easter, never.
And I hate that when David and any future child gets older, Christmas is going to be so bad for them. They won't get to play with their toys, no they get to sit at boring holiday dinners.
Sorry, I just have a lot of anger towards holidays now. I now understand why my mom's favorite holidays (read days off with no family obligation) is Memorial day.
Confession: Mel's situation makes me very happy that my MIL goes on vacation every Easter and that she and my parents plan all other holidays taking the other family into consideration.
To Mel: I don't think I would back down on this one. If you guys literally go to MIL's house for every holiday I think I would say "Look, this one is with my family - we didn't plan to be at MIL's before and I don't think it should change just because she decided to host."
I know it's probably very frustrating, Melanie, for David not to get to play with his toys, but I have a little different thought: I almost never got to play with my toys like that. We often had all adults kind of functions or the other kids were all much older so we didn't get gifts. I look at a lot of kids now and think "Seriously?! I would've been BEATEN if I'd acted like that."
What I'm trying to say was it taught me - something (not exactly sure what it can be labelled. Discipline? Respect? Not sure.) Because I HAD to sit there and behave.
I don't see that in many kids these days.
My vent: if you can't flush your own poo and deal with the consequences (if the toilet gets plugged) you should NOT be allowed to use the big girl potty.
(I just walked into the restroom to find that. *gags*)
I'm this.close to hiding my sister on Facebook. Everything EVERY-FREAKING-THING she posts makes me vomit a little in my mouth and get all pissed off.
But I feel like hiding MY SISTER - my only sister (okay half sister) - would be crossing the line, you know?
But my god...
Since I can officially vent since Paula changed the title of the thread, here is my vent.
My aunt H got married last April and died in June. My mom did not like her sister at all and when she died quite honestly didn't seem to care (she even said "Well,we knew it would happen someday."). H and I were really close when I was younger but we grew apart - she wasn't much older than me - only about 7 years - but she and I went different ways. She had some addiction problems and lived really far away and...anyway. Her husband is here this week because his brother died. My mom called last night to tell me "You are meeting us at noon at the mexican restaurant to have lunch with your uncle." First off, I had plans (Holy week services). Second, I don't understand WHY my mom wants to meet H's husband. But we're all supposed to be there. Except MH because he's out of town working (my sister's husband is expected to be there though).
I said that exact same thing to MH last night! I was looking for a new suit and the model was just ridiculous. I wish everyone just used what the Limited does (not a person, just the body form thing). Plus, half the time the models look awful in the clothes because they don't fit because the models do not look like real people.
I'm sorry Mel, that is super frustrating. MH's family is fairly close but only really do like Christmas and Thanksgiving and it's really only like a 1-2 hour thing. It really makes life easier. Christmas is still a pain with the running back and forth but I really can't complain, it could be worse. That would be really frustrating feeling like you couldn't have a nice holiday with your family without being guilt tripped by your in laws.
Paula I ended up having to defriend my dad on facebook lol. And then my cousin did a friend suggestion to become friends with my uncle. I was like I can't defriend my dad and then be friends with his twin brother.
My vent is that my cw talks sooo much and I don't know if it's hormones but lately it's really been grating on me. All the time she will be like hey remember when this happened? Like about everything, it's so flipping annoying. Of course I remember I was there. She doesn't take a hint either. If I am busy it's like she doesn't get it. She also talks really loud and lingers around my desk all the time, I want to be like WHAT DO YOU WANT?!
Also I was really sick on Monday and my boss was basically like well suck it up your pregnant. I'm sorry ass but since when were you pregnant? And it's not normal to be puking in your third trimester. Then I saw that the lady I babysat for on Saturday night facebook's status was how her son had a virus and was home puking all day, I was like great.
So this doctor that i am really close with at work has cancer (I have talked about him before) and he always asks me how I am feeling and I feel like even if I'm not feeling well I have to lie because the poor guy is going through chemo and radiation and what right do I have to complain about being pregnant?
Also this lady, probably in her 70's does filing at my work. She is so annoying and nosey. And even if my cw and I are talking about something important she interupts. She works two,four hour days a week and shows up like 20 mins late. Really you work 8 hours a week and can't show up on time? And wanders around half the time. She just said she was going to CVS to get something. Really? You can't do that when you leave in an hour and half? I don't even like to go into the file room because I am afraid she is going to suck me into a 20 min conversation.
That was a big mess of mostly vents but I feel alittle better now
My vent - My buyer is driving me up the fvcking wall. Our inspection pointed out four things - there's a very small crack in the outside wall by the roof, a window needed to be replaced, the back door doesn't lock (there's a trick to it that i never learned) and the back screen door was missing (um, what screen door?!). She asked for us to contact the HOA about the crack, and replace the screen door and the window - no big deal.
The fvcking screen door isn't a standard size! It's some kind of ridiculous smaller size than anything we can find. I've seriously been messing with it since Sunday...I even offered her $100 cash instead of the door (door cost us $46)...she said NO, she wants the GD screen door! My REA said she has no clue who to call to get the door done but she's scheduleing the reinspection anyway since it's on - It doesn't move though! I left her a message yesterday saying this whole thing has me pretty upset and stressed out...no return call! I'm LIVID.
.: Diary of a Recovering Runner :.
confession: I wish I knew how to do my make up better. I see girls in high school who look so much more polished than myself.
You tube videos do not help me at all. I'd love to go to Mac and get a consoltation but feel like I'd be expected to buy expensive makeup that I wouldn't even know how to use.
I think a few of the salon/spas also offer this in the area.
Oh I'm sure but at MAC, I'd think they'd have colors that I can try out. I'd just feel like I'd love all of it and spend a butt load on products, get them home and find out I have no idea what i'm doing.
I'm thinking that I may just go to MAC and have them give me a work (read conservative) look. Nothing like what club is she going to tonight?