June 2009 Weddings
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Wedding Invite/Poem Craziness
Spoke with my MIL tonight and she was telling me about a wedding invite she received last week. Apparently it's the son of some friend she hasn't seen in at least 5+ years but she feels obligated to go and wants to see her friend. Then she says, "they're doing a different kind of reception. There was a strange little poem included in the invite about how money is tight these days so the reception would be at a local Mexican restaurant and the guests would need to pay for their own meals."
I mean, really? People actually do this? I know we all heard the stories and read the drama on the Knot but come on, saying it with a poem too?
Re: Wedding Invite/Poem Craziness
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I'm really trying to write this poem in my head, but my muse refuses to be that tacky.
Lucy Elizabeth 10.27.12
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Who DOES that?? Who are these people, seriously? People are hilarious.
I'll play devil's advocate here. We went to one a few years ago in Vegas where the couple did a tiny ceremony and then dinner at a restaurant to follow where everyone paid for their own meal. The couple didn't have the money to pay for much, but they did provide the cake. There were about 25 people in attendance, and it was still really nice -- albeit untraditional. Nobody brought gifts (I can't remember if it was requested to be that way, or just worked out like that), and everybody just being there was more than enough to make the couple happy.
Even though they couldn't afford much, this was still a very nice way for them to celebrate their wedding with their loved ones and have a nice party without having to settle for a quick JOP gig at the courthouse.
I wouldn't do it the way they did, but I don't think anyone judged them for it.
Okay, I'm going to play Devil's Advocate to your Devil's Advocate, because this has been irking me in general. (Warning -- likely tangent ahead)
I don't understand this concept. Like one of the PP said, a wedding is a priveledge, not a right (and, if you really want me to get tangental, even being MARRIED isn't an all-out right, depending on who you are/who you want to marry...). If you want to be married, be married. A "quick JOP gig" is nothing you're settling for -- you're taking the legal action.
If you want to throw a party to celebrate that, then you need to do it within the means you have. Yes, for some that means your friends are willing to buy their own dinner, or you and your FI are planning an at home reception, or both of your sets of parents are each forking over $100K for the wedding of your dreams.
My point is, a wedding =/= a marriage. If you can't afford a wedding, you CAN still get married.
The reason it irks me is because I hated (as a bride, and even now as a married woman) hearing people say "It doesn't matter if everything goes wrong. At the end of the day, you'll still be married!" No. If all I cared about was getting married, I would've gone to the courthouse and done it. However, I wanted to throw a party -- a very nice party for my family and friends. And as such, I would like to know that the time and money I spent on the party resulted in a nice event. (Chrissy, I'm appealing to you on this one -- think about the baby shower debaucle and the type of party you would want to "put your name on.")
Lucy Elizabeth 10.27.12
Anytime, mames
I think the poem thing is pretty lame, but I could see where you'd invite people to a small informal wedding and then tell people, "oh, and we're going to go to X Restaurant after, if you want to join us...." At which point people would assume they are paying for their own meals.
It does seem a bit tacky to formally invite people to pay. I'm also opposed to telling people (in writing, no less!) that you're doing this b/c you can't afford to do better. It seems like fishing to me.
I have several friends that have "won" parties at bars, where everybody has to pay $20-35 to get in, but then all drinks/food are included. I thought it was a bit odd to be invited to spend $35, but it seems to be pretty common here.