Hawaii Nesties
Newlyweds since 2007
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
*redshoedpiratemama*
Sending good vibes your way. I read your post below. You are a strong woman (fine pirate spirit). If they changed my due date, I would have screamed! and screamed! and screamed! Then, they would have thought I was in labor. Be proud that you were calm enough to get out of the hospital.
I'm thinking about you and hoping that it gets easier.
Newlyweds since 2007
Re: *redshoedpiratemama*
Thank you so so much...I know it might sound cheesy, but you just don't know how much I appreciate everyone's support.
I'm still so frustrated over the due date thing, mostly because a) no one could (or would) tell me why it was changed and b) as far as I can tell, it was totally arbitrary - it doesn't match up with my LMP or with any of the dates from any of the ultrasounds.
I really hope my OB can talk to them on my behalf and that they'll change it back, but if not, well...these babies are going to come when they want to come regardless of what ridiculous date they assign them, you know? (And I think it will be sooner rather than later.)
Ben and I have also talked it over and agreed that if the contractions re-start, I'm not going to take the drugs again. We figure that if the contractions start again at this stage, then it's because these babies want to come out now, and since I'm far enough along now that the babies will be safe regardless, we'd rather just let things take their course - and if that's before we can stay at the local hospital, then so be it. Maybe that's the right decision, maybe it's the wrong one, but I feel better about things.
I feel for ya hon! You're in the home stretch now though, as frustrated as you are, so hold on tight. The boys will be in your arms SO soon.
I think you and Ben are onto a good thing as far as letting the contractions just happen and letting the boys come when they're ready. Listen to your gut instinct on this, you've carried these boys for a long time now and you know your body.
Thanks hon.
It's kind of a scary decision to make because I know it won't be what the doctors will want to do, but at the same time...we're already pretty much at the end of the line, you know? If we were at 25 weeks it would be a different story, but we're over 35 now - so how much longer can they realistically delay this? If my body isn't ready to go into labor, it won't happen whether or not I take the meds, and if it IS, then it will happen regardless.
Plus, I think it's possible that stopping the contractions before wasn't even totally necessary...when they did the internal exam, my cervix was 100% closed and not at all effaced - my body was NOT ready to actually have these kids, just kind of doing a trial run. So if the contractions start again, I very much doubt that it would mean the kids were coming ASAP - probably more like days away, maybe even a week (after all, I was having the other ones for several days before I went to the hospital, and then continued having them for 2 more days after they started the meds and there were still no changes in my cervix). So...yeah.
Oh I hear ya that it's a scary decision when they are telling you otherwise! It can be such a blurred line between following your instincts and trusting their judgement, when it is contradictory to your own.
SO many twins are born between 35-37 weeks and I am always suprised when I hear of a twin pregnancy going to 39-40 weeks. I'd say the full-term twin pregnancies are the exception rather than the norm.
Something about this post has led me to the realization that having a baby (pregnancy, labour, raising them...the whole shaboodle) is a massive lesson on trusting your instincts. There's so much flying around as far as advice, when, what works for one parent and baby doesn't work for another (unique snowflakes that we are).
So...it really is a time when you need to tap into that oft unused source called intuition and trust it. The pirates will let mama and papa know when they're ready!
I do not have too much more to add, though would like to wish you all the best in your last few weeks and also for a very safe and smooth delivery.
Just thinking, your anniversary week, is it during the 39-40 weeks? If so and carried till that time, would that not be the most memorable anniversary gift, if the pirates actually arrived on that day?
Yeah, it's actually kind of funny to me that they're working so hard to put it off at this point...I mean, I'm right in the average zone anyway. I know longer is better, but at the same time it's not like they'd be severely preemie even now.
I totally agree about trusting your instincts. That's not to say that there isn't very valid advice out there, but there's also a lot of contradictory info and I think that at some point you just have to say, "Well, this is what works for US."
You know what a hypereducated control freak I am, but right now I've just settled back and decided that this is very much a "what will be, will be" situation. I can't control it, and since we're in a safe zone now I'm willing to just go with the flow on this one!
It is! It's May 1, and the pirates' due date is May 3.
It would be a sweet birthday, but I really doubt we'll get that far...honestly I just don't see how it's physically possible, haha! Mostly because our twins are already larger than the average twins are at this point in gestation, and I think that most twins that get to the 39-40 week mark tend to be smaller babies.