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help me settle a dispute?
As some of you may recall, Hubby and I got a "fairy wedding scene" as a gift from hubby's aunt for our wedding. It obviously was very time consuming to create (she makes these things for people and personalizes them to your hobbies and pets, etc.) but isn't anything I would ever in a million years display in my house. It looks like a highschool diorama project.
Hubby and I are organizing our basement ahead of our kitchen remodel expecting that a lot of stuff is going to have to get stored down there. I tried to throw out said gift and Hubby got really angry. I asked him why and he said that I seem awfully anxious to get rid of it and we should keep it. I asked him if he wanted to take it to work and put it on his desk and he said "absolutely not - I'd get made fun of." Then I asked him why we need to keep it if neither of us will ever look at it. He thinks we need to keep it for at least a year out of politeness. I think that if we don't want it, we should get rid of it. She lives a decent distance away and the likelyhood of her ever being in our house is non-existent so it isn't like she's going to walk in and ask where it is.
Thoughts?
Re: help me settle a dispute?
I'd probably keep it too, at least for a while. Put it on a high shelf (maybe even behind something...
) out of the way in the garage or basement.
But then again, I'm a sap and would feel to bad throwing it out...
I agree with him - if she went through the work to hand make something for you, keep it on stand-by somewhere, at least for a year. Do you have pictures of it?
If it was a store bought gift, I would say chuck it. But it does seem disrespectful to chuck something that she worked hard on.
I agree with the others. I'd feel bad about getting rid of it since it's hand made.
Personally, I would be deeply offended if I made a quilt (...flower arrangement, book, etc.) for someone and they brought it home and threw it away.
I'd chuck it. I am not for having useless crap sitting around my house. However, my DH would feel the same as yours....but me, I would toss it out.
My grandmother gave us an oil painting of a cherub as part of our wedding gift. IT'S SOOOOO CREEPY. We're keeping it for right now, just in case she ever makes it down to Atlanta again... but we know we're going to get rid of it at some point. If we were to move, I'm not taking it with us, let's just put it that way.
Even though she didn't make it, I know she thinks it was a really nice gift. I'm holding on to it for awhile just because I feel like it's nice out of respect to her? It's in our guest room, so we don't see it very often haha
I am not tech savvy enough for a PIP so I did a quick shutterfly share... you can see photos here.
http://fairyscene.shutterfly.com/
I don't hand make anything of significance unless I talk to the recipient first but that is just me. Takes some of the surprise out of it but I dont' want to spend the time and energy on something if they aren't into it.
This is a tough one because I even went so far as to talk to MIL about this exact situation pre-wedding. I let her know that I suspected that we might see something like this and although I deeply respected the time and creativity involved in creating something like this, it isn't something that Hubby and I would display at our house. I wouldn't want her to spend the time on something that we wouldn't treasure. Obviously MIL either didn't pass along the memo or auntie ignored the heads up.
LOL, I love the look on your face as your viewing it!
Okay, so it's pretty fugly.
If you insist upon getting rid of it ASAP, can you at least give it to Goodwill?
I've thought of that - but would Goodwill even take it?!
THIS GETS MY VOTE!
Oh my god. Just get rid of it! I'm with Munkii.
Also, when it comes to homemade gifts, I definitely appreciate some communication. My mom's good friend (one of my "other mothers") made DH and I a beautiful quilt for our bed as our wedding gift (it was the gift I was the most excited about! She'll also be making one for Baby J when we find out the sex and pick nursery colors).
She a) asked me what pattern I wanted and b) had me pick out some paint swatches so she would know what colors to include. I let her choose the pattern, but showed her some styles I liked and did provide swatches. Our quilt is 100% Juan and me, gets complimented by everyone who sees it, and is our absolute favorite wedding gift.
Long story, but I do appreciate handmade gifts. I just appreciate them more when they are actually made with the recipient in mind!
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