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WWYD or think about this?
Dh crocheted a baby blanket for a co-worker of his, expecting a baby girl and gave the gift to him (the co-worker) about 2-3 weeks ago.
Dh still has not received a thank you card or a verbal thank you (sees the co-worker almost everyday) for the gift. The baby was born last week and he even saw the mother/baby yesterday and dh congratulated the mother and according to dh, she blew him off with a sarcastic "thanks" and nothing else.
Dh put a lot of time, effort and thoughtfulness into the handmade gift. I feel that he deserves at least a verbal thank you or am I missing something here?
Re: WWYD or think about this?
I totally think he deserves a thank you, but you can't ask for it. KWIM?
I would be pissed though. We just got a thank you for a gift from my cousin's gf's shower in November and i still haven't gotten TY's from a couple of other showers i have attended. Sux, but what can you do.
Oh I'm pissed, no doubt about that, lol. I just can't believe the nerve of some people, especially since we didn't say/do anything to be treated like this.
Screw em'! lol
Just to be devil's advocate... maybe they are planning to do all the thank you cards at one time, like after the rush of gifts they are getting after the baby was born?
Also, maybe since she just gave birth last week, she is extremely exhausted and just didn't make the connection between the blanket and your DH at that moment?
That being said, people never cease to amaze me when it comes to thank you's. Certain people I have come to not expect anything except an "oh yeah thanks" when I ask them if they received the gift, while other's surprise me especially because they are so hell bent on people thanking THEM for everything.
First of all, your DH rocks for being able to crochet! What an amazing gift, and so thoughtful of him.
I would be so ticked off- I hate the thank you thing- as Riv said, maybe they're waiting to do them all, so hopefully one will come along soon.
Maybe, we shall see.
I never knew a guy that could crochet!
Yes it's wrong not to have been thanked but unfortunately the world has a lot of ungrateful people in it.
DH's coworkers threw him a little shower before Rosie was born, and I told him that I felt it would be weird for me to write a thank you note to people I don't know for a shower that I didn't attend. So I told him he should write the notes, although I don't think he did (which we argued about). I do know he verbally thanked them, and I know that I made him write a note to his coworker's wife that made us a quilt. For some reason he just really didn't want to write notes, maybe it's a guy thing?
I hope that the new mom was just overtired and didn't put 2+2 together when she saw T. I'm not huge on having to receive a TY note if its for something that I gifted in person (and they at least SAID "thanks"!), but I think it's pretty rude not to acknowledge a gift that's a) handmade and b) that you weren't present for it being opened.
I hope someone kept track of all the gifts, like the others said maybe they'll do a big TY blitz when things calm down. Or ask a family member to help with the TY's.
I hope you got mine! :-)
Did she thank him when he gave it to her? I got so many gifts and life was so hard before and after Tyler was born, I couldn't keep track of everything. It took me forever to get thank yous out and there were a lot that I missed. And a lot I coudn't remember who gave what. In the end, I figured if it was a hand delivered gift and I thanked them when I recieved it, I was ok.
i did! It was so cute. thanks!
This was my question too - If he handed it to the co-worker, and the co-worker said "Thanks!" Is that enough? I don't know the right answer to that....
A verbal thank you should be a minimum. She got the gift before she had the baby, so she should have written a thank-you. Before my shower or I started getting any gifts, I had thank you notes on hand and then as soon as I got a gift I wrote a thank you.
And even for DH's co-workers who I didnt' know names or anything, I sent him to work several times with cookies and other goodies as a thank-you to everyone. There is really no excuse for not getting a thank you unless there are very extenuating circumstances.
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No, Todd did not physically hand the gift to the father-to-be (co-worker), he left it on his desk.