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I need to vent
I may delete this later just in case but I need to get this out
So my work sucks basically. My bosses have been saying they are going to meet with me for over a month. Finally one of my bosses asks if I can meet today.
So I am not getting paid anything for maternity leave, I feared this but after 4 years of loyal service and everything that I have done for this company I thought they may try to do something, anything for me so I don't have to drain my savings. Of course I was wrong.
So she then tells me that my office manager, who does the finances, says they can't afford to give raises to any either. It's all crap and oh so convient. My office manager is my bosses MIL and I feel like she just says whatever she wants and everyone follows what she says blindly and doesn't do any research of their own. My office manager is such a b$itch and I am so disgusted with this place and all them. I love some of the people that work here (not my boss or office manager obviously) which is why I have stayed so long but now I am just so pissed. I need to find a new job and I am just so mad that I now have to spend my maternity leave looking for a new job because there is no way in hell I am coming back here.
There are no incentives to stay and now I am not even getting a flipping raise but when it's something they deem a neccesity (not usually the case) they have no problem finding the money.
Oh and as icing on the cake they told me I could only take 8 weeks. Um GFY, if you aren't paying me anyways you have no right to tell me how much time they can take. I dare them to tell me they are not holding my job. I can't wait to see how this place crashes and burns when I leave.
Sorry I needed to get that out. I am so freaking mad. Thanks for listening if you got this far.
As I was writing this my office manager called (from St. Maarten where she spends 6 months of the year) and I asked her about, she said we only have to give you 8 weeks. I said I am taking 12, she was like well I don't know how that is going to work and I need to talk to my boss about it. She kept trying to bully me into saying I will take less time. I'm not backing down. I am so freaking done with this place. She is just pissed she will have to be here. It's like I am being punished for having a baby and I did this to some how piss her off or something. It's always about her.
Re: I need to vent
Do you have an employee handbook that lays out maternity leave (and whether it's paid or not)?
And, secondary question, are you big enough for the Family and Medical Leave Act to apply?
ETA: "To qualify for the FMLA mandate, a worker must be employed by a business with 50 or more employees within a 75-mile radius of his or her worksite, or a public agency, including schools and state, local, and federal employers (the 50-employee threshold does not apply to public agency employees and local educational agencies). He or she must also have worked for that employer for at least 12 months (not necessarily consecutive) and 1,250 hours within the last 12 months."
Agreed!!
Okay... WTF are they thinking mandating you can only take 8 weeks of unpaid leave? If there are no rules laid out, you can do whateverTF you want and their option is to... what? Seriously - WHAT?! Fire you? Um... you're hellbent on leaving anyway, if they fire you you should qualify for unemployment (and you very well might have grounds to scare the bejeezus out of them with a lawsuit!!), and I'd like to see them survive with you gone FOR GOOD.
Karma, baby... it's coming back to bite them square in the ass. And I hope it's got a freaking Godzilla-sized bite.
Mandy we don't qualify for FMLA
I looked into it, the company is too small. There is not employee handbook, I am the first employee (all the doctors that work here are independent contractors) that has gotten pregnant. So this is the first time that this has come up.
Yeah I think that is what I am going to do, make them think I am coming back till the last minute and then hopefully find another job and tell them to suck it. I just copied all my reviews from my employee folders, It's 90% positive stuff. I am asking a bunch of doctors to write me recomendations. Jeremy said that maybe this is the kick in the butt I need to finally leave this place and he is right. I am glad I am 99% sure I am not coming back so I can get everything in order before I leave. I am just pissed that they are being such a$$holes after everything I have done for them.
I seriously can't wait to here about the mess that ensues after I leave.
I would love to get fired for not coming back after 8 weeks, LOVE IT. Unemployment? Yes please, then I could just have longer to look for a job.
.: Diary of a Recovering Runner :.
It wouldn't hurt to do this! I can't wait to see what drama unfolds
There are certain things, I thought, that if you got fired for, you were ineligible for unemployment. So maybe that's worth looking into and then do anything and everything OTHER THAN THAT? LOL
They're not totally stupid... they know they'd be up a creek without a paddle without you. Your Office Manager might just have to actually work... you know, like not spend half the year on vacation!
I was thinking of this too Paula. That if I got fired for certain things I wouldn't qualify. She actually said something along those lines to me yesterday about how she would be left alone and she refuses to run the office alone. I ran it alone for months!! I really want to tell her off.
She wants to bully me into getting what she wants, which she has done in the past and I have given in, but not this time. I think it is driving her nuts that I won't let her bully me this time. I feel like she will just get progressively nastier though.
I'd thought the same thing... based on what you've said about her, this is right up her alley. In fact, I've already thought we should brainstorm what you can retort back with when she finally DOES come into the office, because you know she's going to come in with her big-mouth blazing nasty things.
I know your right and I am basically in the I have nothing to lose mindset. I am just upset that instead of being able to enjoy my last 10 weeks of pregnancy she is going to do everything she can to make it miserable. Also since supposedly there is no money for us to get raises anyways I don't really care at all. I am going to do my work, but I am done going above and beyond for this place. It's not worth it. She will definately being saying lots of nasty things. She is used to getting her way and shes not going to get it this time.
Yes we definately need to do this!